Strangers kissing my baby's face

[MumOfOne92]

AIBu to not like it, I didn't say anything as I hate confrontation and I worry I might seem trivial. I couldn't help but feel uncomfortable, is this just part amd parcel of having a baby.

People do comment on how adorble she is!

No YANBU and I would be telling these people to get lost. I have no idea why people feel they have some sort of entitlement to touch or kiss newborns. All sorts of bacteria can be passed over, they might carry the cold sore virus, they might be a smoker, you just don't know.

You wouldn't go up and kiss or touch anyone else on the face, so why do people do it with babies that have less of an immune system as us.

Are we talking about actual strangers, as in people you have never met? I think people who are not immediate family kissing children/babies is a bit strange. I remember aunts and people I didn't really know kissing me as a child and I bloody hated it!

If they're complete strangers then that's a bit odd really.

However, why do you see asking them not to, as some sort of 'confrontation'?

That's odd and needs to stop. Otherwise you'll never be able to stick up for or properly look after your own kids.

Sorry, that sounded overly harsh.

What I meant was, there's a massive difference between confrontation and simple communication.

She's not newborn, she is 8 months but I still didn't like it.

@Drogosnextwife Yes, never met this woman. She isn't British so maybe it's accpetable in her culture. It was the barmaid at a pub I was applying for job at. Basically, she asked for a cuddle (I'm a bit funny with strangers holding her) and I was in such a good mood, swept away with a good day so I just said yes. She then proceeds to kiss my little lady! I didn't want to make a scene as I wasn't sure if I was being trivial or not.

Then another girl, who is a friend of a friend did it, I know who she is but I don't exaclty know her, know her. I just couldn't believe it on both counts! I didn't know what to say!

@WorraLiberty If I really thought someone was out of line then I would say something. I just wasn't sure if I was being silly or not.

I wouldnt like that. I even get really annoyed when strangers feel they have the right to touch my children's hair. I know they're only saying "lovely curls" but the kids get uncomfortable. One of my kids actually started putting the coat hood up when we are in a shopping centre or Tesco, etc.

@Silvanna what is it with some people!

I don't like it either! My OH's Nan kisses my DD on the lips over and over. Once now and then is fine but she's just excessive and it winds me up! And then people on the bus always want to touch my dd's hand or cheek. I get anxious about saying anything and just sort of freeze. Although the other day, there was a guy who didn't seem right in the head and I thought he was about to touch my DD... Luckily he didn't but I was 100% ready to swat hit away and tell him to back off!!

Can't wait till my my OH gets a car so I don't have to get the bus as much 😂

I can see both sides. I get why people don't want ever random cuddling their baby. But I also will quite readily hand over our son for a cuddle to the people in our local deli as I think "well they have children and I'm there a few times a week so it feels like I know them"

@IWouldPreferNotTo I have got over my issue of people holding her, except from smelly smokers but strangers or people I barely know kissing her is bit much no?