To ask how you know when its genuinely over?

[mum2three0]

Just that

I would look at getting some anti-depressants for yourself - I think your children's behaviour would greatly improve if you were happier and more calm. If the only way to do that right now is via ADs then that's what you need to do. Then after six months perhaps think about whether there's any hope for your relationship.

I agree with HollowTalk. Get down to the GP for some medication. Your children will be picking up the atmosphere, and reacting to that. Also, babies are hard work, and 2 year olds go through the "terrible twos", so that won't help.

If he's home all day, does he do his share of the housework and child wrangling, or does he leave it all to you?

Couldn't you just go out for a walk? I used to do that when my partner got in from work, just to walk around the streets, to clear my head and get a bit of time to myself.

I once read on here that parents of the under 5s should cut themselves a lot of slack and not make any big decisions about their relationships until past this stage of child rearing. It brought home just how hard this stage really is on parents.

Generally no one is sleeping well, life is very relentless, there's no couple time that doesn't involve huge effort etc, etc.

Re the injection, if your mood has been worse since then it is worth considering the effect the hormones may have had on your mood. One friend felt like she had the worst PMT rage permanently whilst she was on it, swapped to something alternative contraception and was fine.

He doesn't do much around the house no.
That's what led to the pettiness.

He asked me to put dd socks on but I was unloading the washing machine, so he shook the clothes drier which caused all the clothes to fall onto the floor
It made me cry hard so I stormed off upstairs and he went to work, leaving the clothes on the floor and the rest in the machine.

I could go for a walk but like I said I don't really like going anywhere on my own, get panicky about certain streets/traffic lights not working/walking down a dead end.

"D"P doesn't sleep well as he gets home for like midnight then usually up by 7 but all kids sleep through the night which is brilliant. I'm up from 4am with the baby.
My mood is only just starting to get worse. But I know fine if my kids just disappeared I'd be happier, 100000%

OK so the more you're saying, the more of a picture of your state of mind is coming out. This seems categorically not a problem with your relationship or with him or with your children.

Don't leave him. Don't leave the children. DO SEEK HELP.

mum2three0

The preschool years are tough, especially with three.

Stick with it OP and see your GP.

Compared to some of the other posters' experiences of a relationship being over yours sounds far from it.

The injection totally fucked my mental health. I was the same, either screaming and shouting or crying for 3 months. I was horrible and terrified as I didnt understand why I was like this. It was like a personality transplant. My GP decided then to tell me that this is not uncommon.....could've told me beforehand

Please please see your GP and reconsider the injection.

Please, please seek help fro your GP, and from your health visitor. You genuinely do sound very depressed, there are things and people that can help.