To keep the GP appointment? Or will I look silly like a waste of appointment

[WheresAllTheGoodInTheWorld]

I prob am BU.
Had an apt booked for today as 2 odd weeks ago found out I was PG. 1 week later I MC. Want sent for any scans etc. Just telephone diagnosis understandably it was early and nothing could be done.
The MC was pretty quick in passing all the blood and tissue.. In fact it was less days than my norm period. PG tests r now negative already.

I literally can't get my head straight. It took the week I knew to belive I was PG after being told I'd need treatment as I did with other 2 dc.
In the week we knew and got excited we had a massive emotional stress so I was all over the place.
Then Bam get over the stress and then start to bleed.
DP was good but also was distant as he couldn't get his head round it all either.

The original apt to arrange MW was today. WIBU to keep the appointment. I feel I need to just ask why? I don't know if it was the stress, or what. I just don't know. I feel. Silly. But also I feel I need someone to shake me and say just get over it and move forward. I just don't know.
I know I want to ask how long till we can ttc again but would that be a waste of appointments

It's not a waste of an appointment at all, it's good to be able to talk through what has happened. Please don't feel silly, it's a horrible situation to be in and I'm sure the MW will be glad to listen and help.

The apt with GP it was to do the MW referral.
I feel I can't just go in there and say... Why did it happen.? My heart hurts so much. All week I've felt someone is pushing against my chest :(

Keep the referral love.
Tell the GP all that’s happened and how you’re feeling. It’s not a waste, you need both physical and mental support right now x

While there is nothing your gp can actually do about your unfortunate mc, they can talk you through what happened and give you support if you feel you need it.
To be honest though I think there isn't enough support for women going through pregnancy loss, I had a huge bleed when I was 16 weeks with my first and at hospital I was scanned and my baby was fine, however the mw was quite frank telling me that if I was going to mc then that would be that, there was no support or help given.
I bled for 3 weeks in the end and was terrified every day. Thankfully my son was fine and is 6 now but I will never forget how traumatic that was, feeling I was losing my baby and being helpless.
I hope you are ok op. If you feel you will benefit from the appointment then go.

Oh that sounds awful. I'm glad your ds was OK.
Wren I started to bleed. I rang 111.and they called back and just said. Yep sounds like MC let it run its course. Then look out for certain signs. Eg shoulder tip pain etc.

So would I look silly to say.
That I know I've MC. And I know nothing could be done once bleeding. But was there anything I could of done. Was the stress a factor. Was it my age.
Also I'm exhausted still now. Is that normal.
How long till ttc obviously get head straight first.

Keep the appointment but be prepared for the GP to not have the answers. No one really knows why MC’s happen. After all if we did then they could probably be prevented.

I’m sorry for your loss, very similar happened to us in 2017.

Thanks for replies. Dp is coming with me so hoping he may ask some Questions thar are maybe on his mind. He said he feels numb too. I'm not good at the talking out loud bit about feelings etc.

This appointment is absolutely one that you should keep.

You deserve a chance to talk and get a bit of support.

I'm really sorry wheres.

I'm really sorry

Keep the appt, I think if nothing NH else it's something that should go on your notes.

**NH? If nothing else

I'm so sorry, Wheres.

Just be prepared that the GP probably can't answer why, or what might have contributed. So little is known about MC. It might help to talk to someone anyway, and it'll give you and DP an opportunity to talk about how numb and down you feel incase you can get support for that. I just didn't want you to expect answers

Thank you all again i will bear all you've said in mind. Just saying to myself a few hours and it will be done with

How did it go love?