Do not be very invested in my second pregnancy

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I feel so bad I'm pregnant with my second, DS1 is 20 months. I just don't feel as interested in this pregnancy as his.

With DS I had the app that told you what size he was compared to random fruit and how he grew at each stage and I couldn't wait for the update. This time around I haven't even looked.

With DS I booked a private scan to find out the sex and was meant to do it with this one and just haven't got around to it so I'm going to wait for the NHS one in a couple weeks.

I just feel like I should be more interested and I'm being unfair to it. I'm aware the baby has no idea.

I'm sure I'll be interested when the babies here but I should be now surely.

First time is all new and exciting. Second time you’ve done it, know what to expect and have your hands full with one already. Doesn’t make you a bad mum, it makes you human! It doesn’t mean you love your new one any less!

No, I was the same and I felt rather guilty about it towards the end of the pregnancy, although that could have been exacerbated by the hormones. I didnt do half of the healthy things I did for DS pregnancy. However, DD has been here for three weeks and is a very healthy and contented little thing.

I'm on my 4th. I don't even know how many weeks I am or bothered actually telling anyone. I'm due in June. There is plenty of love for this baby and my busyness/lack of investment is no indication of my commitment to him as his mum, just how busy I am. I'm just washing all the baby clothes now and all I can think about is the extra washing!!! With my first everything was all laid out. This is more real. Congrats on number 2. My first 2 are years 5 daya apart. Its challenging but fun. You're just more realistic this timw around.

Well I can imagine you are busier now with having a child and being pregnant so you probably don't have as much time to think about that stuff. When I was pregnant I was obsessed with getting everything perfect, having all bedding and blankets matching, makeing sore everything was co ordinating etc. When did got here I realised I had wasted an awful lot of time worrying about that and none of it made a difference. DS had no idea and didn't give a toss how long I had spent making things perfect, as long as he was comfortable and happy that's all that mattered. Don't feel guilty it's the same with loads of things.

Thanks everyone you've made me feel better, as always you just feel
Like you need to be doing more