To be annoyed / worried about this?

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Want to know if I am overreacting or if others would feel the same.

We have had friends round tonight, plan was 1 or 2 drinks as both have work in the morning. I didn’t drink in the end, didn’t feel like it, partner had several.

Didn’t count them but around 10 shots, not absolutely hammered drunk but drunk enough to be vomiting at the end of the night. Drank on an empty stomach which didn’t help.

She has to leave at 8am to take the kids to school and go to work. I have said I’m not happy for her to drive the kids as she will still be over the limit in the morning, using the 1 hour per unit calculation, and instead I will take kids and be slightly late for work myself.

She thinks I’m overreacting and being dramatic as she will feel fine by the morning.

What do you think? Would you be happy to have someone drive your children who feels fine but is technically (probably) over the limit still?

Well if she's been sick that will have got rid of most of it.

I’d feel the same as you.

No, I don't think you're over-reacting. She could well still be over the limit in the morning.

The being sick was around 2 hours after stopping drinking so likely most of the alcohol has been processed before then rather than brought back up.

I’d probably feel the same as you
10 shots on a Sunday night would indicate a drinking issue or just irresponsible to me!

If vomiting isn't 'absolutely hammered' then what is?

No. I wouldn't be letting her drive.

This calculator might be helpful

morning-after.org.uk/?page_id=82

No, I wouldn't be happy to take the risk.

I’m in your camp.
Does she do this a lot? You can get home breathalysers, which might help her to see your pov.

I've got the morning after app and according to that, 10 shots of dark spirit means you shouldn't drive for 13 hours. Considering that she drank on an empty stomach and home measures are often much larger, she should not be driving tomorrow morning.

YANBU I wouldn't be happy either

She'll definitely still be smashed in the morning. Being hand poured those won't have been 25ml measures either, I'll bet, so she'll be even more smashed than she thinks - the vomit 2 hours later won't have reduced her alcohol levels, it'll all have been absorbed by then.

She's going to feel rank until Wednesday.

No she doesn’t do this all the time, in fact she rarely drinks and has low alcohol tolerance which she knows and which is why I’m annoyed she hasn’t paced herself.

She argues it’s more like 8 shots and an alcopop she had but judging by the empty shots bottles it was more. Even so I think 8 is too many when you’re driving children in the morning.

When I say not absolutely hammered I mean not falling over drunk.

She's drunk enough to be arguing that she's not very drunk. That's pretty indicative! She's also inexperienced. Her judgment on whether she'll be safe in the morning is completely bolloxed.

Fortunately she'll be so messed up come 7am that there's no way she'll be leaping out of bed to drive kids around.

Well she woke up and felt fine and is now on the way to work, I did breakfast club run anyway as not happy to take the risk. She still thinks I’m overreacting but it’s just not worth it.