To be gutted about weaning?

[Namestheyareachangin]

Have been half heartedly weaning my DD (2 yrs 3 mths) for a while now, but I've decided I need to just get it over with now and tonight was the first time I've ever put her to bed without feeding her.

She wasn't as upset as I feared, but she was bloody annoyed with me and told me to leave the room, and then went to sleep by herself.

DP and I share bedtimes and she sometimes does this with him, but with me she's always gone to sleep feeding, in my arms.

Is this the future? Will I never cuddle my baby to sleep again? I am very ready to stop bf, but struggling to accept how much closeness we may lose as a result

DP thinks this is a total result and I am mad. Is he right??

You're both right! You have to stop when you feel ready to (and it does sound like she is also ok with stopping, cross but not upset) but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt! You won't lose any closeness, you've nurtured and built that and it won't go away, you'll just have different spaces for it.

YANBU. I’m feeding DS2 still at 13 months and will be gutted when it’s time to stop.

It’s good for her to learn to self soothe to sleep, you might not cuddle to sleep anymore but you’ll still have a close bond. It’s bittersweet this parenting lark, the aim is to get them into adulthood but every milestone is a step further away from needing us.

DD stopped feeding to sleep at 13 months, she is 3.5 and I still sit with her as she falls asleep. She chats to me in the dark and tells me she loves me.

Everything changes eventually and this will just evolve into something else.

You can carry on cuddling to sleep. 2 nights ago I cuddled my 10yo son to sleep and last night my 8y0. I don’t do it every night, but sometimes they still ask me to. You can’t just lose a bond because you weaned x

Ah i can imagine that hurts.
I would guess that once breastfeeding is forgotten she will start to treat you more like daddy and you’ll get cuddles again.
With each development there is a loss too. I can imagine I will cry when I get to this stage, and my DH will give me the same look

You'll still have the closeness and cuddles. Maybe not every night, but you're still her mum and she knows that.

Kolo, I get that I still can but what if she doesn't want me to?? She sent me out! Feel so spurned.... Christ I'm ridiculous, imagine what I'll be like when she moves out!

I've got a 2.5 year old who turned her nose up at milk aftwr her second birthday. I felt like you, but a actually it was nice to be wanted for a cuddle because she wanted me, not because she wanted milk. I'm mummy now, not milk-machine 😂