I dont want him to see the baby AIBU?

[Chacha99]

Partner and I have split with 6 month old baby. He has been extremely horrible to me just extremely disrespectful , rude and hurtful. I say to him he can always be in babys life but I wont give my child over to him after receiving verbal abuse like that? Aibu?

What a terrible thread. I'm not sure why people are saying you are being very unreasonable not wanting to give your child to someone who is horrible to you.

Has he actually got custody to take the baby away from you at this point?

I'd make him work for it ig he is being genuinely awful to you.

People seem to think any father is better than no father.

Anyone whi has grown with a crap dad kniws that's not true.

Of course you should expect him to speak to you in a civilised and respectful manner, especially around your child, but unfortunately, you really need to try and foster a relationship between them.

Really - her responsibility? Maybe HE needs to foster a relationship between himself and his child. Why is it the woman's responsibility to do that? And here's a hint for him - best way to foster a relationship with a 6 month old baby is NOT to be disrespectful, rude, hurtful, and abusive to that baby's mother.

OP, you have my sympathies. You owe him nothing. It is probably (not certainly) in your baby's best interest to have a relationship with his father - even if that father is acting like an arse to you but there comes a point where you don't have to tolerate shit from him - so if he gives you crap at handovers, try to get a friend or relative to do handovers etc.

Surely if the baby is 6 months old it's too little to be away from you for long any way.