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Missquad83 · 28/04/2019 20:03

Hi all I’m wondering what you think about this and any suggestions of childcare. My ds and niece (sil) daughter attend the same school. I’m currently on mat leave but will go back to work in a few months. Now sil does contract work and the hours don’t really fit in with school which I totally understand. At the moment I do all school run as my dh work shift doesn’t fit in with school times either. We will revisit this when it’s closer to time for my return to work. Now sil has asked me to help with drop off and pick ups 4 days a week. I gave it a thought and said I was happy to do the mornings everyday but unable to do pick ups 4 days as it’s quite taxing on me and she finishes work sometimes at 7pm so wouldn’t be back till 8. I try to get the kids to bed before 8 so I can rest I’m usually beat before then! Anyway I don’t want to seem unhelpful but at the same time I feel
It’s a lot. I have suggested a childminder / au pair but sil has tried this in the past and somehow it didn’t work out. I want to help but not do all 4 days. Also we don’t have any other family who live close. Any suggestions

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LIZS · 28/04/2019 20:15

somehow it didn't work out - because it cost her money or she was unreliable perhaps? Hmm Stand firm and offer only what you are comfortable with. She could arrange after school care (nurseries often do pick ups) , a childminder or nanny share. How old is dn?

Missquad83 · 28/04/2019 20:31

@lizs thanks for replying! DN is 5 in reception. I should mention sil is a single mum also. So I know it’s tough but I don’t want to say yes and then feel over extended after a while so I’m suggesting what I feel I can comfortably handle.

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spanieleyes · 28/04/2019 21:05

But it's not just pick up, is it. She is asking you to care for her child for 5 hours a day for 4 days a week! That's a big ask!!

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