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To not stay at DH's relatives house?

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ASnowballsChance · 28/04/2019 16:09

Long story short, been asked to go and visit some close relatives on DH's side for a few days and they are expected us and our DC to stay at their house alongside some other relatives that have been invited. For hygiene reasons I'm not willing to have me or DC stay over their house. DH said he would be happy to stay there and he's not sure what to say to the relative.

AIBU?

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mummmy2017 · 28/04/2019 16:12

Book the room first...
Then tell them you don't want to cause them more work, as they already have a full house...

sweeneytoddsrazor · 28/04/2019 16:12

Rather depends on what the hygiene reasons are. Can they be that bad if DH doesnt mind staying there?

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ASnowballsChance · 28/04/2019 16:14

I suppose DH isn't as fussy as me (different standards!) And also he doesn't want to offend said relative. They have more than enough space unfortunately, although part of house is uninhabitable.

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mummmy2017 · 28/04/2019 16:21

Just book it... Let him say you misunderstood, and it is no refundable.

MrsTerryPratchett · 28/04/2019 16:26

What are the hygiene issues?

Nofilter101 · 28/04/2019 16:27

Is it a mould or filth problem

Aquamarine1029 · 28/04/2019 16:29

Just tell them you prefer to stay in a hotel. No big explantation needed.

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ASnowballsChance · 28/04/2019 16:39

Mould, woodworm, low hygiene/cleaning standards and even ivy growing through some of the windows!

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LillithsFamiliar · 28/04/2019 16:47

It's a few days . . .do you think it will make your DCs ill? Presumably they won't put you in the rooms where ivy is growing through the windows.
If it bothers you that much then book a hotel or air bnb. I've stayed in some very basic places so I'd treat this as an adventure with the DCs (and take some sheets or sleeping bags if I was concerned about the sheets).

MrsTerryPratchett · 28/04/2019 16:48

ivy growing through some of the windows!

Sounds fantastic. Not the mould though!

Crunched · 28/04/2019 16:49

I would find a hotel with a good reputation near the relatives house. Your DH can then tell his relatives that you had been longing to go to this hotel for ages having read an excellent review. You then, unbeknownst to him, booked it as a birthday/anniversary/ early Christmas etc. gift for him.

BlueMerchant · 28/04/2019 16:51

I'd pretend I'd misunderstood the offer and you didn't realize they were offering to host you so you booked a room (it's non-refundable).

Bloodybridget · 28/04/2019 16:56

I don't think woodworm poses a health risk (unless a chair collapses under you).

Littleduckeggblue · 28/04/2019 17:02

Just say you had a voucher code for said hotel and wanted to make it like a holiday for DC, say it would be a shame not to use it

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