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AIBU?

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WIBU to make them sit outside?

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FissionChips · 28/04/2019 00:10

DH thinks I was.

A couple of weeks ago a parent from the school run turned up unannounced at my door saying she thought our children might like to play and that she fancied a catch-up.
I made them stay outside on the driveway (back garden unusable atm) and brought toys for the children to play with and chairs for us to it on, outside.

DH brought it up tonight, he saw her whilst shopping and she mentioned she felt a bit down after being here.

My argument is that I have told her before that I don’t appreciate visitors and will rarely invite them inside. I provided a drink for her and brought out blankets when the temperature cooled.

WIBU?

OP posts:

HollowTalk · 28/04/2019 00:12

Why wouldn't you let her in?

Pieceofpurplesky · 28/04/2019 00:13

As hollow said.

VimFuego101 · 28/04/2019 00:13

Would you consider her a friend? I wouldn't expect to be invited inside if I dropped by unexpectedly.

Calvinlookingforhobbs · 28/04/2019 00:14

Is this a wind up?

PurpleDaisies · 28/04/2019 00:14

If you wanted to make her feel very unwelcome, you definitely succeeded.

Why couldn’t they have come in?

You won’t have her turning up unannounced again but I don’t think I could treat someone like that.

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FissionChips · 28/04/2019 00:14

Double posted so have reported this thread to be removed.

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HeddaGarbled · 28/04/2019 00:14

It’s unusual.

Why don’t you appreciate visitors nor invite them inside? Not saying you don’t have the right to make those choices, but it’s unusual behaviour.

looby11 · 28/04/2019 00:15

I hate visitors and am seriously introverted and kind of hate people but even I would have invited them in. I'd love to hear the reason why you couldn't let them in

Ratatatouille · 28/04/2019 00:15

It's a bit weird. She was pushy to turn unannounced when you had already told her you don't like guests, but it was very strange to hold a playdate on the drive rather than just say "it's not a good time" and make your excuses.

nancy75 · 28/04/2019 00:15

Her turning up out of the blue was a bit forward I suppose but your reaction was very odd, why wouldn’t you let them inside?

FirstAndLastAndAlways · 28/04/2019 00:16

It's not that usual now, with our mobiles and social media etc, for.people we aren't very close with who would know if we wouldn't mind, to just turn up like that and think it's OK. I don't like people coming into my home unless I've had a few days to prepare.

TheSmallAssassin · 28/04/2019 00:17

I think you were being unreasonable, yes. Sounds like you were punishing her. I'm not surprised she felt down after seeing you, though I don't suppose she will be back, so... Didn't your children think it was a bit strange?

AllTeaAllShade · 28/04/2019 00:34

To be honest, I probably wouldn't of invited them in either. You made it clear that's not ehat your about and she did it anyway.
I note that you said 'parent from school run' instead of a friend. I could loosen up if it were a close friend.
I would find myself quite uncomfortable in that situation with someone I might only speak to in passing, maybe she thinks of you as her friend ?
However I do find it odd that she told your DH she felt sad about not feeling welcome enough after turning up uninvited/unannounced!

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