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FFS AIBU to want to cry at another period?

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AuldJosey · 27/04/2019 23:45

I've gone through a few months of all sorts of bleeding on and off, culminating in a massive 2 week loss of blood (wouldn't call it a period).
Bleeding finally stopped about 2 weeks ago and now I've just been to the loo and guess what? There's blood again.
I actually want to cry. I can't take it anymore. Correction: I'm crying.

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EinsteinsArousedSausagesHCB · 27/04/2019 23:51

Oh OP, not U at all. Flowers

Bambamber · 27/04/2019 23:56

Have you spoken to your GP about this? Ive been through this before and it can be really soul destroying when it feels like you just never get a proper break from it all

EinsteinsArousedSausagesHCB · 28/04/2019 00:03

I've also experienced similar, a few years back. Although it was caused by contraceptive at the time. Was absolutely horrendous.

Papergirl1968 · 28/04/2019 00:16

Hold old are you? I had this when I was about 45 or 46, and I was peri menopausal. Heavy bleeding for weeks, a short break, then it started again.
The good news is that when it eventually stopped, after pretty much an entire summer, that was more or less it apart from a couple of so light they were barely noticeable periods.

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AuldJosey · 28/04/2019 00:17

Yes, I'm under gynae now. I just needed a fucking break. I literally can't take it anymore.

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AuldJosey · 28/04/2019 00:20

I still haven't managed to wash everything destroyed from the bleeding a couple of weeks ago. It's impossible to get stains out. I just can't take it anymore! Why???????????? It makes no fucking biological sense.

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AuldJosey · 28/04/2019 00:22

I'm 39

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Papergirl1968 · 28/04/2019 00:31

It could be. I think you can have a blood test to check your hormone levels, and also whether you're anaemic.
One thing I noticed is that there was little pain with my peri menopause periods although they were heavy and full of clots. Someone told me there's no pain because of the decrease in one of the hormones. At least that was one blessing.
It sucks, it really does.
And this week I had a short and thankfully fairly light period, after several years of being period free. Just like my body's way of having a little laugh at my expense because I thought I was finally done.

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AuldJosey · 28/04/2019 00:54

I'm under gynae and am having a hysteroscopy & biopsy soon. My bloods are normal apparently (according to the consultant).
I just have started to recover from not bleeding all over the shop and now its back again and I just want a little cry. I thought the mother of all bleeds might have cleared things out, but it appears not.
It's just so fucking annoying.

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Catren · 28/04/2019 01:09

Sounds so miserable OP. I really hope you get an answer and a plan soon, unexpected and prolonged bleeding is the worst.

Papergirl1968 · 28/04/2019 12:09

In the meantime, look after yourself, as it might make you feel very tired.
Mine coincided with me being made redundant. It was a very hot summer and I used to nap on an afternoon, which helped combat the tiredness. Think I was probably a bit anaemic.

teacakes44 · 28/04/2019 13:54

It’s miserable & I had this too. My periods starting getting heavier at 37 & by 43 I was having spotting, heavy bleeding, periods lasting 16 days etc. I seemed to have about a 10 day break or just spotting all the time. Had a couple of scans they thought I had polyps at first but the 2nd scam revealed nothing. Used the mini pill for a bit that helped although bled heavily to start with. Now at 48 haven’t had a period for months... it will turn around promise xx

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AuldJosey · 28/04/2019 14:48

It's fucking miserable. I can't believe it's back again. I know I'm being investigated for womb cancer/uterine cancer, well that's what I gather, but what if it's nothing and I have to go on like this? Can I ask for a hysterectomy?
First thing the consultant said looking at my bloods was 'well you're not anaemic'. How much blood have I in me?

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AuldJosey · 28/04/2019 14:50

I can't go through ten years of this! It's not fucking normal!

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teacakes44 · 28/04/2019 16:37

That’s just how I was. I used to be walking the dog & think oh god I need to get home now, I’d have to shower & redress a couple of times in the morning, I slept on a towel cos I leaked at night, I have a job where I can’t just go to the loo when I need to - it was hideous, I could feel when I was passing clots sorry TMI. Anyway once you’ve had all the tests they will give you options- coil, pill. Honestly ALL my friends have been thro the same thing. In fact one was breezing through it until only last year & now she understands what we were saying! Believe me it WILL stop but like you I thought it never would xx

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AuldJosey · 28/04/2019 17:35

Problem: I can't take pill as I have a history of a PE. I can't use mirena coil as it made me suicidal.

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AuldJosey · 28/04/2019 17:36

Will they consider hysterectomy does anyone know?

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Mucky1 · 28/04/2019 20:07

I have absolutely horrific periods the tranexamic acid tablets have made them slightly more bearable . I'm still incredibly heavy but I can at least go to work now.
I have found using Tena lady pads the really big kind they use for the elderly at night saves the bedding although it's not very sexy 🙈. You can buy prescription strength iron tablets in the pharmacy and they could help with energy levels. I kind of self medicated with those as getting the 60 year old male gp to understand how awful I felt wasn't happening.

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AuldJosey · 29/04/2019 01:10

Apparently I'm not anaemic, so that's a start.

It's just so debilitating! You can't just toddle off anywhere without ensuring tampon and night pad in situ. That's not bloody normal. Well it shouldn't be. And I don't really feel like just accepting it as being 'one of those things'.

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Abbazed · 29/04/2019 16:45

Three doses of Aldi almat washing liquid and vanish is great with blood stains

Abbazed · 29/04/2019 16:45

Ps huge hugs and virtual prosecco xxx

Lonecatwithkitten · 29/04/2019 17:54

Sounds like you are having all the Investigations.
The ruined clothing Biotex is a god send, my job as a vet gets me covered in blood a lot, DP also has epic nose bleeds and is a cotton Hankie user and I used to have terrible flooding. Four hour soak in cold water with biotex has always dealt with any blood soaked clothing for me, then pop in the washing machine admiral.

PookieDo · 29/04/2019 19:18

Same for me and I had an ablation that clearly hasn’t worked Sad
Tena is really worth paying for

DeathyMcDeathStarFace · 29/04/2019 20:30

So sorry, OP, it is so hard and pretty soul destroying.

I have had 4 dc and bled for a straight 6 weeks after giving birth each time, I get a bit jealous when people say they had nothing like that. But after dc4 I bled for longer then had a 2 week heavy 'period' every month, so two weeks heavily on then two weeks off, for a full 6 months. It was pretty well horrendous and the doctors said it wasn't quite heavy enough to need to do anything about unless it happened over a prolonged length if time, how they define prolonged is beyond me, they didn't give me an indication of when they would be willing to look into if there was a problem. Thankfully it all settled down after 6 months, but it did add to the tiredness of having four children to look after, one of them a new baby.

I really hope the healthcare professionals looking after you can get to the bottom of what is causing this and can sort it out for you quickly.

Also, my mum had problems with bleeding in her twenties and thirties (not sure what the exact problem was, but know it involved excessive bleeding) and she had an hysterectomy. It was a last resort after trying other treatments but I do remember it was when I was still in first school so she would have been in her mid to late thirties when she had it. If you decide you want an hysterectomy it might be worth bringing it up with a doctor as they might not be considering suggesting one yet as it may be too early in the diagnosis/treatment process, they might think you'd prefer a 'less drastic' treatment rather than a full on hysterectomy. If it is an option for you just ask them.

slipperywhensparticus · 29/04/2019 20:36

Ask them it cant hurt to ask