Free time / me time

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I work part time and have one child. I’ve got the flu at the moment so friend is minding dd for the day. Dh at work. I am run down partly because i get no ‘me time’. This is about to change. Dd is up at 6 ish sometimes 7 and goes to bed at 8.30. I sit for half hour then. I intend to make a point of incorporating free time into my week starting tomorrow. So please tell: how much time to you get to relax each week?

Every evening from 7pm once dd is in bed. Me and dp take it in turns to put her to bed which takes about 15mins

Me and dp have one evening a week oit of the house

We get plenty of time during the day on the weekend anywah as dd sleeps for 2hrs twice a day.

I love going to work so quite happy as using that as down time too as it gives me a break from being mum

Depends a lot. DD is 11, nearly 12.

I work 3 days, during these days I may get 1 - 11/2 hour in the evening. I come home after 6pm., DD is either still at her hobbies on these days or will be going soon, so it is a matter of organising dinner and sorting out the next day. Luckily DH is the taxi on these days.

On my days off I do the shopping, washing, do paperwork. I may have nothing going on during the hours DD is at school and sit and read/surfm the internet or sleep. Others I run around until 4pm when DD is back.

On weekends I have more time if we don't do anything. DD is fairly self sufficient and loves solitude so she is up in her room, reading or dreaming or listening to music.

My two are usually down by 7, I watch emmerdale, shower, do the dishes then go to bed. Usually back up at 10/2/3/4/5/6 with my 10m old 😣 not a lot atm but like I said she's 10m. I'll stop breastfeeding when she's 1 and hopefully that'll allow me to have a bi more free time

0 but I chose to have what would be considered lots of children so I can't grumble I do enjoy my time in the bath though and all the children bar the eldest 13 are in bed and asleep by 8pm

tbh i would love to have any free time but we are literally 24 hour carers that gets no help off anyone(family or professional)as according to the doctor funding not available here(valleys of south wales)and cant change doctors as you go to the one in your village so the next villages doctors is for them(i tried)

i have a 8 and 14 y old(neither mentally their age as years behind) with many disabilities each that needs 24 hour care and 2 adults to give it

we(me and their dad)dont get a minute to yourself let alone each other(happy relationship though as been together 20 years)

both are home educated,no special schools here(nearest one is miles and miles away) and no units attached to schools just a normal village schools so cant even get any time in the days

@tor8181 have you asked for a carers assessment? You are legally entitled to have one.

Tor8181 it sounds like you are having to deal with so much without help. I feel like a bit of a moaning Minnie after reading your post

I’ve got the flu at the moment so friend is minding dd for the day. Dh at work. I am run down partly because i get no ‘me time’.

If you are posting here you haven't got flu
Getting no me time doesn't lead to getting flu

Factors that may increase your risk of developing influenza or its complications include:

Age. Seasonal influenza tends to target young children and older adults.
Living or working conditions. People who live or work in facilities with many other residents, such as nursing homes or military barracks, are more likely to develop influenza.
Weakened immune system. Cancer treatments, anti-rejection drugs, corticosteroids and HIV/AIDS can weaken your immune system. This can make it easier for you to catch influenza and may also increase your risk of developing complications.
Chronic illnesses. Chronic conditions, such as asthma, diabetes or heart problems, may increase your risk of influenza complications.
Pregnancy. Pregnant women are more likely to develop influenza complications, particularly in the second and third trimesters. Women who are up to two weeks postpartum also are more likely to develop influenza-related complications.
Obesity. People with a BMI of 40 or more have an increased risk of complications from the flu.

Common signs and symptoms of the flu include:

Fever over 100.4 F (38 C)
Aching muscles
Chills and sweats
Headache
Dry, persistent cough
Fatigue and weakness
Nasal congestion
Sore throat

Wow, I hadn’t realised the internet had developed so much that you know everything about me tanpestryfisrepan. I’d have saved so much all those years in gp fees if I’d only had the sense to message you!

I’d have saved so much all those years in gp fees if I’d only had the sense to message you!

Why do you pay a GP?

It is fine to feel tired and want more personal time but lack of personal time does not cause flu!

Thing is though op, if you really had flu you would not be well enough to post on here.

I don't live in UK so pay dr 50 euro per visit. I'm not getting into discussion about how sick I am or am not. Thanks everyone for your comments. I won't be revisiting this thread. I'm off to my sick bed again

Ahh you’re one of those