To think my husband should come to me

[Drinkandknowthings]

We have a very small house so we’ve gotten into the bad habit of talking to each other from opposite rooms.

Often DH will say something which I won’t hear clearly so I’ll ask him to repeat himself or I’ll go find him to hear him clearly. But it’s starting to bug me, if I say something and he doesn’t hear me I go find him and think if I don’t hear him he should come find me.

We have a long running argument/discussion over whether he mumbles or I’m slightly hard of hearing.

My DH yells from another room and I used to stop what I was doing and go to him.

Now I ignore him so if it’s important he’ll come and speak to me civilly.

How does he know you haven’t heard him?

Maybe just go and talk to each other instead as opposed to across rooms, then there’s no issue

Argh I hate being spoken to from another room. If someone wants me they can come and find me, and I do the same if I want them.

Stop facilitating him. If you can't hear him stop asking him to repeat himself and don't go to him.
You could use baby monitors if you have a big house.

Ignore, ignore, ignore.

This is something that really irritates me. My mum used to drive me mad when I lived at home "giants bane. ..giants bane..." she'd shout from one room "yes" I'd shout back "come here I'm trying to talk to you don't shout at me" Grr I used to think no bloody come and talk to me in here if you want to, couldn't actually say that though as she'd have gone mad at me.

If I can't here my husband properly in another room I just ignore him. He often wants to do paperwork and chat at the dining room table while I make dinner in the he kitchen but with the oven fan and other things going I can't here him properly so ignore him and eventually he'll come through. I make a big habit of always going and finding my kids to talk to them

Easy solution, buy a larger house.

can't you call one another using the home phone as an intercom? or maybe just text one another?

Arghhh! My dh is exactly like this and I do the same, then kick myself for it. Trying to just ignore him if I can't hear him but then he gets grumpy!!

Get two Alexas. Drop in from upstairs to downstairs. Job done.

Or become lile me my mother and constantly shout "I can't hear you, I'm in a different room"