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To not be excited?

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Wiloughbee · 27/04/2019 12:55

Third date tomorrow with a new guy - he’s really nice and we get on well - seem to have same sense of humour and could spend hours on his company. He seems like he really likes me and has said as much, is also looking for something serious whereas i don’t really know what I want just yet (9 year age gap, im mid 20s). Physically he is attractive but different from my usual type and I haven’t felt huge physical chemistry just yet. We also kissed, a lot, on the last date and he was into it but it was a bit wet fish for me if I’m honest. Seeing each other again and I’m feeling a bit underwhelmed - I really want it to work as I like him a lot but the kissing and physical bit/lack of is a bit worrying. I have been head over heels for men before and it’s really important to have that!! What to do?

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gobbynorthernbird · 27/04/2019 12:58

Why are you bothering if you don't fancy him?

Wiloughbee · 27/04/2019 13:02

I find him attractive and hilarious and really enjoy spending time with him

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Wiloughbee · 27/04/2019 13:16

Bump

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gobbynorthernbird · 27/04/2019 13:21

But there's no chemistry and you didn't enjoy snogging him.

I know lots of lovely, kind, funny, bright, attractive people. They're my friends because I don't fancy them.

Why try to force a relationship? Seems a bit desperate and depressing.

Wiloughbee · 27/04/2019 13:24

Definitely not trying to force anything - more trying to give it one more chance to see if it does grow on my side? I’m also quite picky. And I don’t want to cancel at this short notice. We were drunk when we snogged so I’m interested to see what it’s like sober

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Wiloughbee · 27/04/2019 14:12

Anyone had similar where their feelings changed?

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LatentPhase · 27/04/2019 17:15

No. I had a thing like this once. Nice guy. We lasted a year but it was never a long term thing.

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