So my DD 9 has had some difficulties at her current school, she has been at current school since nursery.
Over last 6 years her group of friends she formed friendships with have slowly and gradually all left her current school ( moving some where else in the country etc)
So eventually my DD is on her own.
She has tried to form other friendships but they have not turned out as these children have already formed their groups.
What I found happening was she would play with a certain group of children, who she thought were her friends, but what they did was manipulate her into doing things she had never done before ( saying things to other children like name calling etc) basically it was like she had to prove herself. Then when she did do what they asked her to do, they would go tell the teacher or dinner lady and DD would get into trouble.
Obviously I told DD not to do those things etc and explained what that group was doing and to stay away from them.
DD started to play with some nicer children and was slowly forming a friendship with them. As DD was not interested in the other group anymore, they then decided to manipulate a boy, who they know is troubled and has behaviour issues.
They would say to this boy that DD said this or that about him or his friends (group leader is apparently this boys gf ) so he would go hit DD.
DD would tell me what happened and I spoke with the teacher. (This continued for few months)
I may get slandered for this but I told DD to hit him back!
DD is not a fighter in the slightest so what she did as in fighting back was to push the boy away from her (she would lift her leg in front of her more bracing herself from a kick she would receive from the boy, and using her arms to block from punches to her body) then to get away from him she would push him or kick out to stop him hitting her, To staff this her hitting him! I've told staff I have told her to hit him back but she won't, what she is doing is more a defensive move than actually hitting hit!
Now DD is not allowed out at lunchtimes, she has to go to clubs and is only allowed out on a Wednesday lunchtime, Same goes for the boy but he is only allowed out on a Thursday.
I've spoken to the HT about the whole situation and exactly how this all came about. But for some strange reason she seems to have excuses for each every time this boy has physically attacked my DD
HT;
( oh you see, Ms cottontail this boy had been to the dentist this morning and is feeling really groggy after having a filling, so he is more likely to be sensitive a lot quicker as he is in a lot of pain)
ME;
( you all ready know this child has behaviour issues (not Sen) if he was in that much pain, why not keep him off as my DD now is in pain due to been punched in the back by the boy)
My DD has been following the lunchtime decision for over a term and a half without no issues of her own, However the boy has not been sticking to it, continuously running out at lunchtimes, even on Wednesdays when it DD day out, May I add physically hitting her when doing so.
So this week DD comes home and tells me this boy was out on her day out, she told dinner lady it is not his day his day is a Thursday (has been for the term and a half) dinner lady says " I know it's not just keep away from him" ( nothing happened between boy and DD this time)
Do I phoned school spoke to AH and she said there was miscommunication between staff as to what day boy is out, to which I responded this has been the same for over a term (same staff) and there is a time table stating who is were what day, so I don't understand how miscommunication happened, She assured me won't happen again.
DD spoke to me and said she feels like it is unfair that she is sticking to the timetable and still is only allowed out on a Wednesday, why can't she go out Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, stay in on Thursday away from the boy and go out Friday.
I realised she had a point and spoke to AH to which she said " as DD is struggling with friendships that it would be better for her to attend these clubs to form friendships and to build a friendship with this boy!" I told AH " she was forming a friendship with the nicer kids but as she is in these clubs this is preventing her from doing so as they don't attend these clubs and as for forming a friendship with this boy, why should my DD be kept away from those nicer kids to form a friendship with this boy, at the end of the day your trying to form a friendship with a boy who physically hits her due to been manipulated by the other group and because he has issues and tbh I don't want my DD any where near him, let alone a friend!"
So I decided to look at a different school for DD, the one I viewed is absolutely amazing and she will thrive.
There is space and could start next term.
AIBU to move DD? She did ask if she could go to a different school as she does want to go to current school as she feels she is been treated like the boy (to which she is) I have not told DD I've viewed this school, i have another viewing booked for Tuesday with DD. It is just such a big change and I'm in to minds wether to do it or not, there is more positive than negatives, any advice would be massively appreciated 
Very well done getting through this post too