To think this attitude is dangerous?

[freetone]

My parents raised me with an attitude of minimising illnesses and that doctors/hospitals were a scary place. The only time I ever saw a doctor as a child was when I had swine flu, and even then it took my DM a good few days before calling for help. This attitude is now affecting me with my toddler DD. She’s had severe eczema since she was a baby and it took a while to diagnose. The entire time DM would say things like ‘oh it’s normal baby skin’ ‘she’ll be fine’ ‘you’re overreacting’. Whenever she has a really bad cold and I think it could be bronchiolitis DM just shrugs it off. This attitude is what’s landed me with (luckily stage 1) skin cancer and years of struggling with undiagnosed Crohns and Asthma. I had a melanoma that the doctors now say I should have had removed when I was a child. Anyone else experienced people minimising illness?

I completely concur OP my dm was similar (unless it is herself and then the whole damn world heard and it was massively exaggerated) and it led to undiagnosed PCOS and undiagnosed anaemia in myself.

My ex mil was worse though , she flatly refused several times to seek medical help for various issues , Exdh had a broken foot and she spent a week telling him he was weak and silly for thinking about medical help until a family member stepped in and took him to the doctors.

The week she told me never to trust a health visitor and to weigh ds1 at a supermarket (in the veg scales) and she delayed calling an ambulance for severely disabled BIL I told her i would ring social services if I ever got a sniff of it again.

I do use my common sense with my DC and we don't usually go for coughs colds and bugs but anything put of the ordinary I feel no shame in seeking help.

I still struggle for myself and I have huge issues with people minimising illness for that reason...its arrogant and belittling and comes down to not prizing others well being over outdated and stupid beliefs.