DH just got angry and went to bed because I took the last of the Xmas lights down

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We have some star lights that hang in window, and because they're quite nice and not overly Christmassy, we take a while to take them down after Xmas

Come spring they look a bit odd (people ask why we still have our Xmas lights up!) and a couple of days ago I took them down

He hadn't even noticed until now when I pointed it out. Then he had a big strop, shouted at me for not asking and went to bed

Bit of an over reaction surely? He would say it's because I clear things up too much, throw stuff away too soon etc. I'm much more of a 'doer' than him and this gets on his nerves

He's being ridiculous, YANBU.

Does he really like the lights? Or is there a back story of some short?

He sounds unhinged. Is he usually this much work!?

Probably something else on his mind...

He’s gone to bed?! What a child. YANBU. Does he always have a strop when you take the initiative!

Yes he does really like the lights. I guess more than I thought!

I’m often slow taking the decorations down, but it is 3 months since Christmas. He is overreacting!

He can't have liked them that much if he didn't even notice they were down?

Sounds like it's not so much about the lights but something else bothering him. Maybe it was just the push over the edge for his bad mood. Sometimes things get on top of you and it takes something small and silly to make you go crazy

If he's gone to bed at half past eight on a Friday evening, he is massively overreacting. I hope he apologises tomorrow.

Bit of an over reaction surely? He would say it's because I clear things up too much, throw stuff away too soon etc. I'm much more of a 'doer' than him and this gets on his nerves

Have you thrown his stuff away before?

Odd
On a number of levels

AuditAngel

It's 4 months now!

I think I would have struggled not to laugh at him for that over reaction.

Are you married to Roy Wood?

How often have you thrown away or 'tidied up' things that were his, or that he was using/enjoying, without consulting him? People who are constantly tidying and clearing and generally scurrying around can be pretty joyless to live with.

How is he with change in general?

No one could sensibly accuse you of clearing away Christmas decorations too soon when you do it in April. Tell him to grow up.

Weird. Is he feeling a bit of a lazy guilt trip / angry thing because perhaps it was his job to remove the lights and he hadn't got round to it????

We keep ones up on our ceiling all year round. And round the mirror in the hall, love fairy lights. I wouldn't throw a strop but I would be upset if my DH took it upon himself to take them down, and tell him to put them back up!

How odd

The tidying up / asking me thing is a smokescreen. If he didn't actually notice then he's not attached to the lights especially, he's just lashing out because he probably said he'd take them down and never got round to it. He's cross that you ended up doing it then made a point of telling him.

Odd. Does he gave form for being a man child?

Could he have had a bad day and this was the 'final straw'?

I'm wondering if you live near me we walked past a house last week that had stars in the window and wondering why they had Xmas lights up!

Is he Superstitious?

Christmas decs should only come down twelfth night (5th Jan) or twelfth day (6th Jan).

If not these dates, then last date is Candlemas (2nd Feb), after that they should stay up all year.

Well it's an overreaction yes.. but it seems strange that theres not anything else going on... perhaps he feels like you should have consulted him about it as you know he really loves those lights and its reminded him of other times you have thrown things away or moved things that he wanted without asking him?
Just sounds like you might have very different personalities... I get emotional about objects too so i feel a bit sorry for him... but he was out of order stripping off like that..
I think you should just go up there and say you didnt realise the lights were so important to him and find out if there is anything else worrying him that caused him to overreact like that?
If he continues to be stroppy when you go and try and speak to him nicely about it then I'd think hes just a bit of a twat rather than stressed or particularly attached to the lights for some reason.