New to children help.

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Ok sounds weird but with the lifestyle I had up till 38 didn't include children. I didnt have a boring life and dojt regret it but I dont know how to relate to my boyfreinds son. I know enough that he needs help with things like cooking the 7 year old bacon sandwich but I also know not to get involved as dont want to have any troubles with the ex. So I dont cook for them when he is here once a week. I kinda have nothing to do with them and dont get involved and they do parent quite comfortably.

I just feel so awkward around him as I am really not used to kids and as I don't want the boy to hate me or think I'm trying to hard or being over bearing. I stick on the reserved side. Anyone got any advice. I know it sounds strange but I just cannot connect. We been together for over a year with my boyfreind

I remember the animosity we had when I was 15 and my mum died. So I only know it from the other side.

I forgot to add I have mild aspergers so it is a small part of it but not all of it.

He has two involved parents and this early on in your relationship you don't need to worry about being a third, just be a friend. Ask him what he lives, what he's been doing that week etc that builds conversation for the following week, oh you said you were going to Johnny's party, what did you do? Was it fun? How was your class assembly? Etc, don't over think it

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Agree with pp. Just talk to him as you would a friend. Ask about likes/ dislikes, hobbies. The more you over think it the more awkward you will feel.
I don't see the problem with cooking and making a meal. I think it would be nice and show you care and are a nice person.it doesn't mean you are trying to take on a mother role.
I would be mindful not to come across as too reserved though. It may look to the 7year old as you don't like him.
Try and relax and be yourself.

Just talk to him like you would a friend. Appropriate for his age, obviously! Ask him to show you how to play his favourite games/video games. Ask him if he'd like to talk a walk with you and then grab a bite to eat or a treat. All he needs from you is kindness and attention. Kids that age are SO much fun! You can learn a lot from them.