Husband feeling unwell

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I work part time and my husband works full time shifts. He looks after our daughter every Friday while I'm at work, that's his only full day of the week where he's on his own with her. Anyway, I'd just got to work this morning when he rang to say he wasn't feeling well, (headache, cough, generally feeling run down after coming off night shifts two days ago) and wanted me to take the day off work to go home and take over childcare for the day as he wasn't feeling up to it today. Now, WIBU to say no and tell him to crack on? If it was the other way around, I wouldn't dream of asking him to leave work (unless I was seriously ill or it was an emergency). What would you do?

I wouldn’t expect a man to come home from work to look after his child if his wife had a cough and was feeling a bit shit, so the same goes when it’s a woman at work.

No yanbu. He's being ridiculous. What does he think sahm do when they have a slight cold or feel a bit tired?

Unless he's much iller than suggested he has to crack on.

I am a sahm and there is no way my dh would come home because I had a cold. I’d never ask. Can you imagine him having to explain that to his boss ?

So it’s the same thing.

I would never expect a working parent to take time off for illness unless it was serious / something you are genuinely incapacitated with.

how old is daughter?
stall him
but dont go home

Well looks like you didn't post this until the day was over anyway. What did you do?

I would have taken the day off work to look after my child and to provide drinks, paracetamol etc to my poorly husband.

Hahahahahahahaha

I'm a single mum have been for 16 years, how the hell does he think single parents manage?

He's a bit run down, tell him to utilise otc/home remedies for symptoms and grow the fuck up!

I've looked after dd through numerous bouts of flu, whooping cough, gastro, following a car accident that left me permanently disabled.

My brother's looked after his eldest solo while in a hip to toe stookie with a broken collarbone.

Wtf is wrong with these men that can't cope with basic parenting difficulties?!

I would have taken the day off work to look after my child and to provide drinks, paracetamol etc to my poorly husband

Really? Do you work for yourself or just have a very understanding boss?

😂😂😂😂..... just that

Say I'll be home when I can; 5:30pm like usual

Yanbu, no sick days for parents at home unless very serious.

My husband once asked me to do this. I said no.

If it was a horrendous vomiting bug I might be more understanding.

He's being utterly ridiculous. How on earth does he think single parents manage with illness? My worst experience was when I had gastroenteritis and my two year old had the worse case of chickenpox I'd ever seen. I also had an older child to take care of. I had no choice but to get on with it because when I appealed to my husband (who had just left) for help he asked me to take pictures of son so he could "offer support by text" as he'd gone on holiday with OW. There was nobody to help and nobody to "take a day off". Honestly, this is is ridiculous. Tell him to grow up and man up

Absoloutlry not. But then again my DP is a Dr and of the mindset that if you can stand ...it’s not serious.

The concept of him calling me, to come home, for a cold...is actually laughable 😂

He probably has manthrax!

How does he think single parents cope?He's only doing it for one day then he can lay in bed feeling sorry for himself. Isn't like he's got to do it every single day on his own when he's got a full flu. YANBU

@Summersunsareglowing I stayed at work and told him to take some paracetamol and get on with it. But he's been trying to make me feel bad about it all day, so I posted this on my way home to see what others would have done.
@Summersunsareglowing you're obviously a lot more sympathetic than me. Would he leave work and do the same for you in return?

@EleanorReally she's 11 months

I am glad you stayed at work op

FFS unless the caring parent is sick With D&V then a bit of a cough and feeling run down is nothing. My thing is if you feel well enough that you wouldn't miss a day at work then you are well enough to look after your child

A vomiting bug, proper flu or a broken limb, I would take time off for and expect DH to do the same for me, but feeling under the weather? No way!

However, I would try and get out on time or a little bit early, just to show willing.

If he was very unwell then yes but it sounds like he has a case of the sniffles.

You did the right thing.

Couldn’t he just have Day nurse and orange juice? It’s only a cold surely. Not great but shouldn’t warrant a day in bed and you leaving work

I would have taken the day off work to look after my child and to provide drinks, paracetamol etc to my poorly husband.

. You can't be serious?

I'd have left him to it too.

I’m on mat leave, I spent Friday looking after a baby who’d just got over a stomach bug, a toddler mid D&V and coming down with the bug myself. I desperately wanted DH to come home but was stuck with it until after his last meeting finished at 4pm and it took him an hour to get home. If I’d actually been totally incapacitated he’d have come home early but otherwise I had to cope. The other way round I’d have probably binned to last meeting but either way neither of us would go home to take over childcare from someone with a cold!

YANBU, he’s being ridiculous

A horrendous D&V bug or genuinely bedridden (not just feels in need of a lie down) would be different. Of course single parents have to just get on with it when they have those things but people in a partnership should support each other when possible.

But with his symptoms he should just take paracetamol and have a quiet day at home with DD and leave you to work.