To ask how far into your relationship your first argument was

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And did it make things stronger?

16 years in... And we've not really had any arguments. Disagreements over small things. But no what id call arguments. But I think we are very unusual.

DH and I don’t ever really argue, but I think it’s possible to argue in a way which strengthens your relationship, by which I mean that if you can argue but remain respectful, non-aggressive and fair, it can give both parties comfort that even when you disagree and things are hard you can rely on your partner to have your back and treat you well.

Arguing in a way which is unkind, cruel, aggressive, frightening or manipulative is, IMO, never healthy and is a sign of negative attitudes which will inevitably chip away at your bond until it breaks.

About three days in. We had a fierce debate about the death penalty.

It did make it stronger, because we learned that we could have very strong, differing opinions, and exchange them, and agree to disagree. That we would respect each other's right to have a differing viewpoint, even if we didn't respect their viewpoint.

Would love to be one of the ones that are "we've been together for 130 years and never argued, not even frowned at each other" but then again would I? Anyway I imagine we were only minutes in before we argued

And yes it's probably because I'm a

Three months. We have only seriously ‘argued’ a couple of times in 4.5 years. We do bicker occasionally but it’s never very serious and we always end up laughing. Neither of us are shouters and have never shouted at one another, it’s just not how we deal with things.

I'm sure we got annoyed with each other before then, but I would say first true argument when I was really, really angry was after about 2 years (he bought something stupid and expensive when he should have been saving for upcoming travel together, we were at the time in a LDR, opposite sides of the world and we were going traveling for a few months to spend time together). It dragged on for a few days and then he realised I was right and decided to sell said stupid, expensive item and put money towards his flight. We've been married going on 10 years with 2 dc and I can count on one hand probably the true arguments we've had, so doesn't happen often. But he's a peacemaker and there is only one argumentative one in this relationship, so usually I can only rant about something so long without anyone to rant back at me, which means arguments are few and far between.

6 years in, shortly after the birth of dd1.

I wouldn't say the argument made our relationship stronger, but overcoming the horrible sleep deprived newborn period did.

About 15 months for a proper argument - we'd had bickering disagreements over whether we liked or hated X politican, agreed with X article in the paper etc before but not real arguments. It taught us we have very, very different conflict styles - he likes to get annoyed, immediately get out of the way, calm down and then just let it go, I like to analyse and talk it to death but have trouble letting something go. That's been a useful lesson in the years since - I know when I should just let something go, like he does, and he has learned when something's important enough to stay and talk it out.

I’ve genuinely never had a proper heated argument with dh (been together 14 years) about something “big”. We’ve had debates/disagreements about say politics. We do bicker occasionally.

When I told my sister that I've never had an argument with my husband (we've been together 6 years) she said "There's something not right with you two"!

But we NEVER argue, EVER.

If something comes up, we'll sit and discuss it, find a solution and move on. Like adults.

We don't argue. I don't necessarily think that arguments damage your relationship though. We're just both not argue-rs. We sit and talk things out. Neither of us are shouty and we tend to have the same tolerance levels.

If your arguments are respectful, fair and infrequent, I don't think they'll damage anything in the long run.

Never had an argument in more than 25 years until I found out that he was having an affair.

Dh and I used to argue allll the time as we’re both so stubborn , not so much now though and we’ve been together 13 years .