AIBU to ask you - how often are you hit on by random men (mid-late-30s)?

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Off work today and met with a couple of old female friends for a morning coffee and a bit of cake.
We are all in our mid-late 30's and - not sure how to put it in a kind way - are all, probably, average to below average looking for our age. Everyone is also a single mother, so not a lot of time for personal grooming or spare cash for designer outfits.
The talk turned to personal / intimate lives (specifically, to the topic of one night stands and fwb relationships), and I was surprised that the rest of the women are asked out / hit on / approached regularly - at least couple of times a week. Coffee shops, grocery stores, gym, work - everywhere. Which is not my experience at all - if someone shows any interest in me, it is probably after a dozen of drinks at the after-work happy hour, and is very likely to be the office creep.
I feel like the ugly friend now . AIBU to ask you about your own experience, if you are roughly in the same age category? Intended reasonably light-hearted, it's not like I am going to lose sleep over this.

*kissed not missed. Although being missed would be nice as well!

I haven't been hit on for years apart from one horrific incident when a patient asked me out at the end of our consultation. I'm a sexual health nurse

What did they mean by “hit on”? Men coming up to them to tell them they are beautiful and ask for their phone number? Hasn’t happened since I was 16 (and that was all creepy old men).

Catcalling/whistling/weird mumbling? Couple of times a week, but only on specific roads (Brixton Station Road I’m looking at you). Much worse when I had a newborn with me, presumably because I was more vulnerable/less likely to clip them round the ear (I was certainly not more attractive). And when out running, it is almost constant - I don’t run outdoors except with DH now, I use a treadmill if I want to run alone.

Zombies that is foul

Honestly, it’s more about being aroschable than attractive. Only very self confident men will hit on an attractive but unapproachable woman. I get a certain degree of interest/admiration but I am only ever got on by brazen and disrespectful men or when I am in a social situation where I am friendly and geberally in a good mood. Your friends may either be very smiley or they may be spending time around sleezey men.

Late 30's here. Never hit on now but I have a magnificent resting bitch face that alludes more to "I'll rip your dick off" than "please speak to me". Oddly, I am super friendly and will speak to almost anyone, my haggard face just doesn't give that impression.

I'm 45 and I get hit on regularly. However, I would never discuss it with my friends, they would think I'm a massive arsehole for bringing it up, as most of you probably do now that I have told you.

I noticed since I turned 30 I get hit on a lot less

Never. I some times get men learing from behind as I am slim and blonde, but then they catch up with my 38 year old face.
I have a friend who gets hit on everywhere, though she's single years, I think it is her imagination.

I'm too fit to hit on

I’m early 40s. I’ve never been hit on. Not once.

I hope they didn’t have a virulent strain of gonorrhoea or similar Zombies. That would be some brass neck!

I wander this regularly and admit to recently feeling quite down about it. Like you- barely ever.

Honestly not blowing my own trumpet but among girls I have comments that I'm the best looking of the bunch/a different league/really pretty etc. My husband and ex boyfriends have been pretty handsome and his more flirty mates flirt with me/his colleagues at work have said how pretty I am when he shows my picture etc.- m but rarely strangers out and about. In public I feel invisible. I've barely ever been chatted up.

There's a female colleague at work who I never through was especially amazingly hot- though is definitely girl next door pretty, and everywhere we go she gets looks/flirts/chatted up while I feel like this stupid dumpy sidekick!!! I know I have a bit of a resting bitch face/can hold myself quite woodenly/rigidly so am not particularly "soft" while she is much more "fluffy"and flirty by nature. Is it this maybe??

Regularly, but I believe more so due to my work area and commute has a certain type of men in that area. Some collagues also share my experience, some did not. Those that didn't also felt slighted (when they really, really shouldn't), and are attractive women. I sometimes think it is just down to chance. I think its entirely possible for two equally attractive women to have completely different experiences in this regard.

In my experiences throughout life, more often than not, its really desperate, creepy, zero regard for your boundaries type of interactions. Mostly, men with a very clear lack of respect for women who think they can follow, touch, block your path or whistle/talk at you however they like,

or just men who are slightly less creepy, but will hit on anything or anyone, the ones that just have to strike up some 'charming' convo just as you are trying to walk through a park, sit on a bench or walk to work in peace.

Even the far tamer 'coffee shop flirt' cheesy encounters are gross. Whilst of course it is down to looks i also really feel its moreso down to where you live and frequent and who lives there, whether you are excellent at resting bitch face and have remembered to make zero eye contact and wear your massive headphones etc (still, they don't always work) whether you drive everywhere or have to walk/use public transport, and just pure chance

Thank you all for the responses.

No, I am pretty sure they are not boasting - the emergency committee meeting was called by me as I have a massive secret crush on a colleague (non romantic, purely physical - I don't even like him as a person), which started actually interfering with my professional life, and is kind of sad and miserable. The collective wisdom was that I should just respond positively to the next passable guy who asks me out for a coffee on the morning commuter train and get laid to get all of this out of my system - to which I was as no one has ever asked me out for a coffee like that. But apparently very common for everyone else. Got my share of whistles from the building sites when younger, but occasions where a sober sane stranger approached me with romantic intentions can be counted on the fingers of one hand, and all were in late teens / early 20s. Now also have a 'mom bod' as many of previous posters, a greying hair here and there (and there too), and apparently totally invisible.

It can be that they are perceived as more approachable, I definitely have the least sunny / bubbly personality between all of us.

Nope never. I do my hair nicely, wear make up and generally look presentable. The last time I was hit on was probably when I was 25 in a nightclub. So 10years ago.

Your friends are taking absolute BOLLOCKS. Unless they are mistaking friendly, polite "hellos" for being hit on!