To think you should never ask someone if they're pregnant unless you're 100% sure?

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Ran into one of my neighbours yesterday and she excitedly asked me when my baby was due. Her face dropped when I asked her what she was talking about and she started back tracking and gabbling about her own weight issues, I just wanted to get away. I got home and had a cry. I know I've pit on weight but didn't realise I actually look pregnant. I wish people wouldn't ask this question unless they were absolutely sure. I never make comments on people's appearance unless it's to praise them. Well it's kick started me into making sure I eat a lot less from now on so maybe it had to happen. Just feel so ashamed of myself.

Let's just say I have a midsection that needs some work. "No, I'm just fat" is my automatic reply now. I also wear a "please offer me a seat badge" if my legs are playing up so "no, that would be a baby on board badge" is my next response.

The only time it upset me was when a customer asked me whilst i was stood behind a very tall till unit. I had quite a stretchy dress on but she could only see me up to my (quite big) boobs. I felt enormous.

Definitely not being unreasonable. Someone asked me the same thing a few weeks ago in front of several colleagues - I laughed it off and then went home and cried about it. Thing is I actually thought I was having a skinny day! I was in the middle of ivf treatment so maybe it was the flowing dress I wore but I've lost 3 pregnancies in 18 months and i would love nothing more to shout from the rooftops about being pregnant!
Even if a woman had it tattooed on their forehead and was in the middle of giving birth I still wouldn't presume anything! X

Here is a general rule:

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I was asked about 3 months after I had given birth!!
I was beyond humiliated and the lady just done a tinkly laugh and said oops

I don't think you should ever ask. Even if it's obvious. Maybe if the head it peaking out from vajayjay and I have to help with delivery then maybe. I personally believe that people will share it with me when they feel I should know. It might be after the baby is born. Never ask, even when it is obvious.

Yanbu!

I’ve been asked twice since I had my last dc. On both occasions I was holding my tiny newborn. I just thought ffs use your brain. If I’ve just given birth, how could I possibly be so pregnant that I’m already showing 🙄.

I had a CS and it did make my tummy poke out a lot for a good while after. It still isn’t great tbh and I feel as if I have to say it all the time “I know I still look a bit pregnant” etc.

I will confess to once getting this wrong, many years ago and commenting about someone having another baby when she wasn’t pregnant. I can only put it down to nerves as I was somewhere I wasn’t totally comfortable and was desperately trying to make conversation. I couldn’t even style it out I just apologised profusely and left . I now have a policy where I don’t mention it at all. I wait for them to tell me! Even to the point where it’s a bit weird of me not to comment. I will not do it as it was so, so bad when I did it before.

As one who always held any extra weight in my tummy and is sensitive about my weight anyway, I totally agree with you. I have had quite a few days ruined by comments like that. 😢 My reply was always a snarky "no, I'm just fat," but it was still upsetting.