To expect guests to bring toothpaste?

[peanacat]

Please settle a debate, all the guests we have from dh side (family and friends it seems) never bring their own toothpaste to use when they visit. Never been an issue with my side of the family. (Geographical thing maybe?)

Me and dh share toothpaste but I find it weird that people don’t bring their own to use when they visit and we have to share ours with the guests?

I have no idea why it irritates me so much, but just seems weird and kinda germy
Do you all take toothpaste when you go and stay somewhere?

I always keep in spares of basics for guests, you get a tube of toothpaste for under a pound, toothbrushes are four for a pound in cheap shops.
That way you don't have to worry about sharing

I find that the toothpaste is very sticky and hard to get just a small section off onto the brush so it’s easier to very slightly wipe it over the end of the brush to put the amount needed on there. I obviously can get the paste off without this but it takes more effort that way

And my dh does the paste on brush the same way as me, but he is very laid back and doesn’t care about anything so that explains the divided opinion I think moreso

Fyi toothpaste is the only thing I’m even slightly weird over anything else I own is fair game haha

This is quite extreme op. From worrying about germs if people use your toothpaste to throwing some out if it's been open too long. Just in case.

I take my own to peoples houses, but if I forget will use what's there. I don't care who uses ours, it's in the main bathroom and daughters en suite and guests use both bathrooms. We have guests at least once a month, often more.

Honestly it's really extreme to worry about this.

I had no idea the extent to which I must horrify people until I joined MN.

The things people are shocked by / worried over / disbelieving about STUNS me.

I must be leaving a trail of outrage behind me everywhere I go...

No fucks given, still, but...

I usually bring my own, but depends who I'm staying with and mode of transport. If its a lovely budget airline it's easier to take nothing. Also If it's my immediate family I don't bother. However, when visiting in-laws I take everything or buy when I get there!!

When anyone visits me, I leave a basket of toiletries in the room for them to use, this includes toothbrushes, cotton wool and sanitary products.

Family and good friends- I always expect to use their toiletries- shower gel etc, especially as we are normally travelling by train.

People I don’t know as well, eg my partner’s friends, I usually bring my own stuff and a towel. Not toothpaste though!

Ugh...you toothpaste stealers don't use their roll on deoderant too, do you?!

I use my host's toilet roll and don't bring my own! Shocking.

I would expect to provide toothpaste if I have guests.

Every time i log into MN i realise that im a disgusting person, who knew

I always take toothpaste and all toiletries with me on visits - it never occurred to me to do otherwise. I only fairly recently realised that some people don't do this when we had a visitor who required toothpaste and soap on several occasions. So this thread is interesting. I now keep some travel sized toiletries in the spare room for visitors.

It's just good manners to take your own toothpaste. Also some people do touch the tube with their toothbrush.
Of course I wouldn't tell my guests to bring their own toothpastes but I would buy the cheapest one and if they don't like it they can bring their own one next time.

I would never think to take toothpaste to someone’s house, any more than I would my own loo paper.

I just expect to use the hosts toothpaste, shampoo, shower gel etc. I only stay with very close family/friends so I would hope they don't begrudge it. Or maybe they're all talking about me!

Would never expect to provide toothpaste or toothbrushes, Showergel yes, deodorant no, toilet paper always, towels yes.

Actually all products have an opening expiry date (normally a little tub symbol with 12M next to it etc) so I felt a bit mean leaving the paste there for them to use that had been open longer than a year (because hardly anyone uses it). I personally would use things that have been open longer than its recommended time but just seemed a bit weird to expect guests to use technically ‘out of date’ stuff.

I’m not extreme in the slightest, just interested to know what people think.

And the dildo comment

I think someone has hit on something though, currently it is just me and dh living together so we tend to travel together, didnt think about if multiple people in a family use one tube! We have a kiddywinks on the way so maybe I will change my stance on this

I rarely visit anyone whose not close family so I don't take my own. I had to tell my son & DiL to only bring toiletries inc toothpaste if they use something special. I now have so many toothbrushes here.

I bring my own toiletries when I travel and buy replacements, if I forget something or if my luggage is delayed. As others have said, if a guest asked to use our toothpaste, I'd assume they'd forgotten to pack their own. Wouldn't love to share a tube, to be honest, though I'd try to hide that fact-- and if I had a spare, I'd just give them that.

...Because yes, some people touch the brush bristles to the tube opening, and how are you to know whether or not your guests do? It's not likely to cause any problems, really, but it's still potentially kind of gross (to some of us, apparently).

Of course you should take toothpaste with you when you are visiting someone. You should take all your consumable toiletries bar loo roll!

As for the person who wanted to borrow deodorant- ewww 😩. It doesn’t matter if you flew with hand luggage only, there are shops!

It wouldn't even cross my mind to think or care if people used the toothpaste.( or soap, or whatever) when they come to my house.

What a thing to worry about!

YANBU. Yuk. I'm horrified how many people seem to think sharing toothpaste is normal. I'm going to start hiding mine and. Putting out a visitor tube out when guests come, just in case. If I didn't bring my own I'd go buy some when I arrived.

Depends who i am staying with, I stay with my cousins and one friend quite a lot and never take shampoo/conditioner or toothpaste. Likewise hairdryer and straighteners. The same rules apply when they stay with me, why carry more than you need to! If it was someone I didn't know well then I would definitely take my own but also wouldn't mind asking them if I forgot mine, and would be more than happy for them to use anything of mine.

We usually bring our own toothpaste when visiting DH family, and same when they visit us. There have been numerous occasions for what ever reason where we have ended up forgetting toothpaste and the family has no problem at all with us borrowing theirs

I can see that your annoyed at the principle of the situation but I really don't think its that big of a deal. it's toothpaste

Why throw the spare tube out? Just put the top on!
Goodness, some people really are weird.

I would have no objection to anyone - family or not - using our toothpaste. We usually take our own, though when staying at dd's I've been known to use the kids'.

I would never expect a guest to bring toothpaste, shower gel, soap, shampoo, etc. Of course they wouldn’t, unless they wanted to bring their own special shampoo etc.