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To hate being at home

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Facedown · 25/04/2019 16:33

I have 3 kids. One of them is ok. Teenager, keeps to themselves. The other 2... Jesus Christ! They’re 4 and 7 and are, for want of a better expression, utter twats!! They’re bearable on their own, but together, they just make me want to scream into a pillow!
I use any excuse to get out of the house(I now have 3 jobs!) DH gets the easy bit. Works all day, comes home, eats, goes to bed. Doesn’t have to contend with the little thundercunts quite as much as I do.
Would IBU to emigrate to another country and just leave them all to it?!

OP posts:
IWantMyHatBack · 25/04/2019 19:17

Fucking love this thread.

OwnerOfThatChocolateBar · 25/04/2019 19:24

@Bluntness100 Hmm I suppose your of the upper class are you?

Bluntness100 · 25/04/2019 19:27

Clearly not, but i can't say I adore strangers on line or that someone calling their kids cunts on line is the best thing I've heard all year. 🤷‍♀️

Lifeover · 25/04/2019 19:32

And many people on here would cut off their right arm to have these kids. Many would do anything to hear their children arguing again,

Be grateful for what you have and maybe look at getting help, it’s not normal for people to be so verbally aggressive about their own offspring and it will have an impact on them

PookieDo · 25/04/2019 19:32

I felt like this yesterday but it’s a bit better today
I think they finally realised they were being complete wankers to me and have bucked their ideas up a bit
It shall return to normal by tomorrow I am sure

DD16 has GCSE’s, which I am totally supportive of. But this does not stop you passing someone a loo roll without screaming at them or moving your bags and shoes from the hallway without proclaiming ‘no one cares about me’
DD2 is wafting around sullenly wearing a blanket as I won’t put the heating on

PookieDo · 25/04/2019 19:34

I don’t think OP has said any of this to her D.C. she’s just expressing frustration with a particular style of humour - which clearly isn’t for everyone

DoneLikeAKipper · 25/04/2019 19:39

PookieDo, well anyone would hope the op wasn’t saying any of this to her children, bad enough reading it as a stranger.

Everyone is still ignoring the part where the op says she does everything in her power not to be at home and her husband doesn’t do much with the children when he’s around. Guess it’s very easy to gloss over that not so lighthearted bit (even though that would be more noticeable to the children and perhaps part of the reason they’re such ‘twats’).

PookieDo · 25/04/2019 19:48

I am not glossing over it but it can be read in different ways. I’m a single parent I will honestly admit I have sometimes dreaded going home to bickering, housework etc haven’t we all? And her DH gets all the nice bits and she gets all the shit parts of parenting? Isn’t it sometimes normal to want to run away a little bit?
It’s like when you plan a lovely day out but by the time you get into the car you have already had enough of it all and wish you hadn’t bothered - but you are a parent so you do what you need to do. Doesn’t mean you always enjoy it.
That’s how I read it anyway

DoneLikeAKipper · 25/04/2019 19:58

Well I read it how it is - the op doesn’t say ‘I have three jobs because we need the money’, she uses it as a qualifier to ‘any excuse to leave the house’. That’s not wanting to ‘get away a little bit’, which as a stay at home parent, with two under 4 constantly with me and absolutely zero family help, I categorically understand. It’s definitely not always enjoyable, but that doesn’t mean reaching the point the OP is at is normal or ok. As I said, if anything it’s just sad.

PookieDo · 25/04/2019 20:16

I see both sides. like I said it can be interpreted very differently either as just a dark humour post or a dark humour with sinister undertones post

I don’t know OP so like you I can only use my imagination!

I have 2 jobs myself 😂

Facedown · 26/04/2019 00:22

Oh dear. I seem to have ruffled a few feathers.
It was meant as a humorous post. I love my children dearly, as does DH. He works his arse off to give us a comfortable life. I’ve been a SAHM for many years and am only just getting into the swing of being a working mum. It’s hard! Knowing who needs to be where and when. The youngest 2 fight almost constantly. Heaven forbid one of them breathes near the other!!
Our kids are loved-and they know it(I even breastfed them-2 overlapped!!). The youngest is asleep on my chest now. So, please don’t think, I’m any way, that I’m not a good mom and I genuinely dislike my kids. They’re my reason for living, breathing and drinking gin Smile

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Creamnosugar · 26/04/2019 00:38

Don't worry op I think we all have days when we feel like that. My kids have been arseholes today( I just went into the bedroom & shouted FUCK OFF! into a pillow. I love em but christ their annoying sometimes. I think anyone with an ouce of commonsense and a little humor knew you were just venting.

Planetian · 26/04/2019 08:29

No but you might be the only one who calls her own children cunts on line.

She definitely isn’t. I’ve whispered it under my breath about mine in real life - shock horror!!!

Bemused by how sensitive so many on this thread are? Bizarre to get your knickers in a twist so easily.

Gin for you OP and GinGinGin for the plethora of posters who need to unclench Grin

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