Aibu to not be able to cope with this harrassment anymore?

[Madmilkmaid]

poster, but I'm needing some advice.

In the last 6 weeks I've had no end of crap from my exHs exGF. I have never spoken to her, messaged her or engaged with her in any way. I see her most days as our dc attend the same school.

Since exH broke up with her shes started to make my life hell (no idea what I'm meant to have done). She's cornered me in thec playground and shouted in my face, written a shed load of awful things about me on fb, messaged me a load of abuse and physically barged into me.

I'm haven't responded to anything and am trying to avoid her at all costs even down to not dropping or picking dc from school, collecting them if I have to early and via another entrance. It's a joke.

Aibu to be so close to just losing tbr plot over it all? The school and police are being great and are doing what the can but in the mean time I'm just sat here having to take all the crazy shit. I seriously have never engaged with her at all. Thought it would pass but nope. She's still at it. Currently trying to find somebody to pick dcs up from school and could just sit here and cry

Really what you want is something concrete to report her to the police for. I wouldn't be avoiding her at all, you've done nothing wrong. What does your bloke say about it all?

She sounds unhinged!! What on earth are you supposed to have done? Does she think your ex-h has dumped her to get back together with you?

What are the police doing? Have they visited her and told her to pack it in?

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I find it hard to believe you don’t know what jer problem is with you. Like, what has she been shouting in your face or messaging? Does she blame you for the break up?

Nonetheless, this is intimidation and completely out of order. I note you already have police involvement. What are the next steps toward a barring order or whatever the UK equivalent is?

Oh god, I'd be so tempted to get back with my ex just to watch her face.

Ah sorry I see he's your ex h.

Keep logging and ringing the police. They are the only ones who can rein her in. Is there nobody who can come with you on the school run as a witness?

Thanks for the replies. ExH has said she's crazy, that he's told her to pack it in and that him dumping her was nothing at all to do with me.
The messages are all along the lines of I'm jealous etc which is way off the mark.
Been split with exH over a year and have a great bf.
Police have warned her off twice. Shes got a good size criminal record apparently so doesn't care what police say.

She thinks your ex either is, or is trying to get back, with you. And she's trying to "warn you off", thinking he'll go back to her.

Police have warned her off twice. Shes got a good size criminal record apparently so doesn't care what police say.

Deep joy - you're stuffed really arent you ? in the nicest possible way.

The school and police are being great and are doing what the can

School can order her off site. But they probably dont want the aggro either.

Have sorted somebody get dcs from school for me thank god. Then it will be sit and wait to see what sort of crap I get from her tomorrow.

so youve been split with him "over a year". i presume that means under 2.

in that time hes had a new girlfriend and was with her long enough for her to feel she has a place to do this to you?! Jesus. she sounds sane.

also why did he break up with her? could it be that he used you said "im not ready for a relationship" therefore making it your fault?

Believe it or not he was only seeing her for 7 weeks! It wasn't a big love story. Not totally sure why they split up. From the bits he has told me it was her being a bit crazy and he didn't really like her when he got to know her.

Perhaps your XH could be a bit more careful not to shit where he eats in future?

Hi OP I'd go back to the school and say it's not good for the kids - any of them - to see someone being abused in front of them. Can they let your child go 15 min early or 15 min late til it settles down so you can avoid her?

Also I assume you are keeping a log and evidence of absolutely everything? Would they be able to put a restraining order on her (sorry dont know how this works) which would mean she would have to get someone else to do the school run?

In my experience your ex probably has told her a pack of lies which made you look like bitch from hell. Had the same experience with my EX and his then gf. She was horrific, a 40 year old professional woman behaving like a bully. I logged everything and reported her, and she did get charged for harassment.

The police are planning on giving her an official harrassment warning and then charging her if it continues.
I was dropping my dcs off late and picking them up early but they got upset thinking the had done something wrong and don't understand why the couldn't play with friends before the bell went in the morning.
Everything thing is being reported to the police so they have a log going back from when it started.

I suspect exH had probably did make out im a bitch to her. He's an exH for a reason..

I've got school drop of covered in tge morning so that's a little bit less stress tonight.

Sorry I don't know how to tag fir the replies or do the quote thing.

Hope you get sorted OP, best of luck