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To be thinking of a third child?

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Esmereldapawpatrol · 25/04/2019 14:18

We have two wonderful DC, they will be 7 and 5 this year. We have one DS and one DD so therefore this seems to make everyone think we are done and don't need anymore children and to be fair there are days when we feel like that too and we feel very lucky. However, we keep coming back to talking about a third child, and we have both said that if money was no issue we would definately have another but we don't want to not be able to do things with the two we have because we have a third. DH is in the forces, I work full time, we own our own home, we aren't rolling in it but we get by but things would be tight whilst on mat leave and paying for chilcare.

DD starts school in September and this is making me think more and more about it, both DC keep asking us to have another baby (although I know they probably don't realise the actual reality) and I just can't shake the feeling that we will regret it if we don't.

On the other hand we find life so easy now, it's easy to get out of the door, go on day trips etc etc but then after having two you know how quickly the time goes!

I just feel like we are going round and round in circles, wanting another which makes us have the conversation but then reason wins and we drop it again only to be talking about it again a few weeks later!!

Any advice or wisdom is welcome I feel like I need to get more of an idea of how things will be. I just can't shake the feeling that our family isn't complete yet!

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Foxmuffin · 25/04/2019 14:20

It sounds like you’ll regret it if you don’t. Have another baby.

GrassIsntGreener · 25/04/2019 14:26

We always wanted a third. Discussions, what-if's etc went on for some time. Then we had the third child, who completed our family and we can't imagine life without. It just feels more...whole.

I'm so glad we went for it.

Crunched · 25/04/2019 14:34

I am a third child and I have 3 DC.
I always hoped for 3 - DH would have been happy to stop after one of each- and, as GrassIsntGreener says, would not have felt my family was complete with 2. However be prepared for more expense when it comes to cars, holidays etc. because UK life is very geared to 2DC.

Cbatothinkofaname · 25/04/2019 14:40

We went for 3 with smaller gaps but in all honestly I wouldn’t have done it once the older two were in school... too much of an age gap. I’m sure it would be fine when they’re a newborn but you’re talking an age gap of 8 and 6 years minimum which will mean they’re at quite different stages later on.
But of course only you two can decide.

Chipsahoy · 25/04/2019 14:41

Mine are 11 8 and 1. Love it. It's fantastic, don't regret it at all.

RedPanda2 · 25/04/2019 15:15

Wasn't there a huge thread about how having more children was bad for the environment? Maybe you should think of that?

Esmereldapawpatrol · 26/04/2019 09:40

RedPanda2 that is a valid point that I hadn't thought of.

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