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Wedding ring

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PRenee · 25/04/2019 13:21

We were burglarized and my wedding ring was taken. I have an old one from a previous marriage and my husband told me to wear that one. I was shocked and hurt by what h ed said. I think that he should replace it. Am I wrong?

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PlainSpeakingStraightTalking · 25/04/2019 13:22

burgled not burglarized.

Wont your insurance replace it ?

SamBaileys · 25/04/2019 13:23

No you're right, the ring from your wedding to him should be replaced.

lostelephant · 25/04/2019 13:24

Why should he replace it? Don't you have home insurance?

sockatoe · 25/04/2019 13:25

He wants you to wear a ring which was given to you by another man as a symbol of his unending love and commitment to you. Wow! Your choice!!

Whoops75 · 25/04/2019 13:25

Wear it and call him your ex’s name

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking · 25/04/2019 13:26

Its only a bit of metal, get he vicar/priest/witch doctor/whatever to bless it.

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PRenee · 25/04/2019 13:26

The ring was part of a collection of jewelry valued at 11,000 dollars. Only compensation is 2500 dollars for all that was taken. The ring was in my jewelry box waiting to be taken to jewelers to have a lost stone replaced. This was not an expensive ring and is still being produced.

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ZippyBungleandGeorge · 25/04/2019 13:27

Claim on your home insurance. Why do you even still have your wedding ring from a former marriage? (Unless your previous husband passed away)

Isth · 25/04/2019 13:27

It really depends on your current financial situation I would think. It’s a strange suggestion for sure, surely it’d be better to just not wear one? Also, why would he replace it? Don’t you have insurance?

Contraceptionismyfriend · 25/04/2019 13:28

Just go out and buy your own. Problem solved.

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 25/04/2019 13:28

Why don't you have adequate insurance for the items you own? No point having £2500 with of cover if you have £11000 with of jewellery

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 25/04/2019 13:29

*worth not with

archivearmadillo · 25/04/2019 13:29

Your home insurance pays for a new ring.

You could melt the old one down to make a new one though. It's weird he wants you to wear one from a previous marriage unless he just sees it as a "taken" symbol, like being chipped ... tbh though it is every bit as weird that you've kept the wedding ring from your previous marriage without even having it made into something else.

Why did you keep the ring?

mummyofdaughters · 25/04/2019 13:31

Ok, but why do you still have your wedding ring from your first marriage?!?!

Pinkyyy · 25/04/2019 13:31

Well it sounds like you didn't have adequate home insurance to cover your jewellery.

archivearmadillo · 25/04/2019 13:32

Cross post - so you'd had the jewelry valued but not insured it adequately?

In that case just buy a cheap plain band or melt the ring you do have down.

Why wasn't the ring from your previous marriage stolen? We're you wearing it?

cindersrella · 25/04/2019 13:37

Whoops can you imagine that. My husband would hit the roof (I don't have an ex we have been together since I was 15) but if I did 🤦🏻‍♀️

OP I think you should have a new ring. Tell him if he's not careful you will have another dress too and wedding.

Will your house insurance cover. I'd be really gutted if my ring was gone. Devastated in fact.

QuizzlyBear · 25/04/2019 13:51

My wedding ring was lost at a spa day years ago. I was really upset at the time but eventually just pulled my pants up and picked out another one.

I paid for my first one and the replacement! It's a ring to symbolise our marriage, not a gift, IMO.

DogInATent · 25/04/2019 13:54

a - you're under-insured. Get that fixed asap.

b - the 1950's rang and would like that attitude back. Why should he replace it? Why shouldn't you replace it between you together?

c - why were you keeping the ring from your ex in a separate and more secure place than the rest of your jewellery. Something unresolved? Why are keeping it? You could sell it and use the proceeds to replace the stolen one.

Thepacksurvives · 25/04/2019 14:13

Replace it yourself

TheViceOfReason · 25/04/2019 14:37

Typical MN, focus on trying to invent some bullshit story.

Perhaps the OP just kept the ring out of sentiment (people don't have to hate their ex's you know!) or just didn't want to throw it away.

Maybe it wasn't pinched as it was in the back of a drawer somewhere, rather than in her jewellery box with the things she actually wears?

jeez.

Otherwise.... yes, its daft having jewellery valued but not insuring it to that value! If the insurance is too expensive, buy a safe.

It is odd he would be happy with you wearing a previous wedding ring, but equally, maybe the ring isn't important to him - does he wear one?

I do agree though - buy yourself a replacement - or go together and pick one - it's not down to him to replace - presumably you initially chose your rings together?

youknowmedontyou · 25/04/2019 16:03

Using a ring from an ex is naff, IMO.

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