To wonder if there is a girl code?

[malificent7]

And if so what does it comprise of.
Do we all have different ways we treat our own gender?
Eg...mine is:
Don't date your friend's ex.
Stick up for your friend.
Don't compete unnecessarily ...give her space to shine.
Don't sleep with your friend's man or steal him.
Let her know if she is being cheated on.

Any more?

And btw I know plenty who ignore all of this. What do you think?

I am beginning to feel there is no such thing as female comradeship.

Arent they all just how you should treat anyone?

No girl/boy code just treat people how you would like them to treat you.

female comradeship

I'd like to see your bloke code

I don’t believe in the “girl code”

I believe in treating everyone in a reasonable way, rather than behaving a certain way because we have the same genitals.

Oh and men can’t be “stolen”. They can choose not to cheat. Direct your ire the right way!

There is. But IME that goes out the window if someone wants something badly enough. I was a legal sec in matrimonial. The number of men who ran off with a woman's best friend was huge. I also worked with a woman who planned her BFF's of 15years birthday party with BFF's husband. And promptly ran off with him soon after. She was totally unrepentant, said 'they fell in love wile planning the party' & constantly bragged 'I'm the younger prettier woman'.

Nope. Don't believe in "girl code" or "squads" or any other nonsense that suggests I should be nice to someone just because they are a woman.

I treat everyone with the respect they treat me.

Girl code,fuck that.its just another social construct to control women.dont be so daft

So let’s address your post
Don't date your friend's ex why? I can see it’s potentially controversial.but it’s ok. For the record I have a mate dated a man for 10yr he wouldn’t commit to having a baby (time isn’t right) or marriage (bit of paper). They broke up.she dated his mate, married and baby in 18mth
Stick up for your friend only if they’re right,I’ll not defend the indefensible. Friends drift it happens

Don't compete unnecessarily ...give her space to shine are you hannah Montana
Don't sleep with your friend's man or steal him men aren’t possessions they can’t be stolen,they go willingly of free will. And

Let her know if she is being cheated on it’s a judgement call,I’d not necessarily tell

No there is no female comradeship, I’ll align to people based on attitude,behaviour,kindness not gender
Sisterhood is the biggest myth ever sold to women

I don't believe in a girl code. I believe that we shouldn't do shitty things to other people.

Ok...so perhaps we should ponder on people code then. Or friend code forcrisk of being sexist. Is there one or when it comes to love and sex etc is it every man ( or woman) for themselves?
Is there a genuine moral code or does each person hold different morals.

My own belief is that everyone has a different moral code hence the fact that people have different boundaries or expectations. Whereas i personally couldnt date my friend's ex who she loved, others would put the man first and vice versa.
Whilst i dont think having wanted children out of wedlock or claiming benefits is morally reprehensible, others are in uproar.

Lol “children out of wedlock”,do you live in a hamlet or a religious retreat?

I just think you should treat everyone how you want to be treated.

However I also think you can't help who you fall in love with, and that phenomenon will cause strife in friendships forever more.

To me girl code is check in on your mates by text if they are on a first date, don't go after your mate's ex (at least not for a couple of years!), and don't fuck over another woman by shagging her fella. Yes it's him that is cheating on her but you don't have to facilitate that.

I was being ironic hence i dont mind. Tis a common phrase round these parts!

Oh oh! And don't ditch your mates when you find a new chap.

And yes, most if not all of the above applies to mates not necessarily just women

Is there a genuine moral code or does each person hold different morals.

Of course different people have different morals, that's hardly a question that needs answering

Surely apart from a few very old fashioned or religious types, nobody in the real world in 2019 is 'in uproar' about children out of wedlock 😏

What a bizarre entire post.

I think you can choose who i get close to though. I think my friend's fella is fit but i dont follow him on fb, flirt, or form a close friendship with him and hey guess what? We havn't fallen in love! I dont want it to happen so it wont.

Do unto others as you would have done unto you op

That's really all there is to it.

It depends. Getting with a guy who dated one of your friends years ago and had an amicable breakup, I dont see any reason why not. Getting with a guy who has just broken your friends heart after walking out on their marriage, no way

What PutThatLampshade said.
I always go by treat people how you'd like to be treated yourself.
Whether male or female. If you're not an arse then neither am I

Yes, the only reason your friends 'fella' () hasn't fallen in love with you is because you avoid him enough to stop it happening

Wrong site, op

Yep I believe in sisterhood and loyalty amongst women. I would go above and beyond for a women in a way I wouldn't for a man. Men already have the advantage and privilege. Women should look out for each other.

Those are all things you should live by whether you're a guy or a girl, really. That's just being a decent person.

Girl code is:
If you have a spare pad or tampon, help a girl out
Tell someone about their skirt being tucked in their knickers or loo roll being stuck to their shoes etc
If you have the means in your bag to save the day, offer it.

I dont call it girl code either.
Just be a decent person