Hi 👋
Looking for some impartial advice.
There is a deep long history regarding my husband with alcohol abuse. Not an alcoholic as such but once he starts he can’t stop and I’m turn can get verbally nasty and cause emotional turmoil. Two weeks ago it happened again but this time he began to thump me around by back several times. We were arguing about him drinking to access where he wanted to go out I on his own just to drink and thought that I was being unfair.
He had an accident 10 years ago and ended up disabled and I have tried with all my might too help with everything. It’s not easy and at times we both have said stuff that’s unfair. He has always refused counselling as he says it’s not for him.
On the occasion just gone I said the only way I’m coming home was if he went to see a professional. He promised. He also has taken measures to completely stop drinking through will power and self help books. He knows he has a problem and has accepted that.
On the weekend I was asking how he was getting on and did he need help or wanted me to go with him as he still hadn’t made an appointment. He knew that my bottom line was he had to goor we split. He told me he is not going despite the promise and I should compromise and see that what he is doing is enough. Is it? So far I’ve kept to my word and started looking for accommodation for myself and our two children.