Stag do & cheating. Why?

[couldyouever]

I'm not getting married, not even engaged so this is just me pondering.
Why would any man (or I spose woman on a hen do) go out to celebrate spending the rest of their lives with the person they have chosen to spend the rest of their life with and do the dirty on them. Am I being unreasonable to not for the life of me understand why anyone would do that?

Last hoorah I suppose

One last hurrah before marriage and breaking vows

I don’t personally understand the purpose of stag/hen do’s full stop. The notion is supposed to be ‘one last night of freedom’ as if the years you spent together as a couple didn’t count and that you don’t need to be faithful until married . Makes little sense to me...

But you've already committed to someone well before marriage. You have love and trust and I don't understand why you would risk that commitment.

YANBU.
Luckily I've never been to any, have to go to one soon, though.
I'm pretty sure the hen won't be unfaithful as she's my future dil and her mum and sisters will also be there.

Wonder if any one has gone through with marriage whilst suspecting their other half had got up to something on their stag/hen do?

The “last hurrah” thing is b**cks and I don’t know why anyone would fall for that. Total cognitive dissonance.

I know of more women than men on a hen who've had a knee tremble than blokes on a stag that have strayed. Allegedly. Either blokes are more discrete or women tell their girlfriends everything. But that's only anecdotal.

I would hazard a guess, most people are opportunist, given the right circumstances

couldyouever - I knew a lady years ago and we’d all travelled up north to her wedding.Big Catholic Church wedding and everyone staying in the same hotel the night before. On of her bridesmaids was in a relationship with a guy who had been on the stag. He let it slip as to what had gone on during the stag - I’m not sure if he’d been with a prostitute or stripper. Anyway she cancelled the whole wedding the night before. She said she couldn’t have sat there, listening to the best man speech, knowing he had paid for it and she couldn’t even look at the DH-to-be, so that was it. Nobody blamed her. Everyone supported her 100% and gave her all the gifts, etc. Two years later she got married in the Caribbean and never looked back. Good for her.

I'd call the wedding straight off if I found out anything what so ever had gone on. I wouldn't even tolerate an 80 yr old stripogram. Yes I'd be very drunk and being a complete twat no doubt, but there would be nothing sexual because I just wouldn't want to do anything with anyone else but my fella .

I'm engaged, I won't be having a hen do but then I don't really drink and that seems to be the main point of them.

My partner is having a stag and it's just one big piss up. I don't think he'd cheat (wouldn't be marrying him if I did) however there are some men who do take it as an opportunity to and a 'free pass'.

pa1oma....wonderful, I would absolutely do the same.
I just don't grasp the concept of doing the dirty when you have agreed to enter into marriage. I don't get doing the dirty in any circumstance in any circumstances to be honest.