Boy and girl siblings sharing a room Aibu?

[kittens876]

Ok so my son shares a room with his little (half) sister when he’s at his dads every other weekend. His sister is 6 and he is nearly 11. I feel that fairly soon this is going to be in appropriate. His dad feels it will be fine. Aibu? I just feel that as he’s getting older, it’s going to be getting weird soon. He’s going to need his privacy. The issue is they only have 2 bedrooms. The kids room is tiny, which doesn’t help. Although, I know they could afford to move to a bigger place as he earns a decent wage and they rent. Any thoughts? Thanks x

If they only have 2 bedrooms it sounds like there is no other option. It's also not your place to say that they could afford to rent a bigger place. Maybe they are sensibly saving up to buy a place.

I’m really not sure why you think there is an issue with this OP. They are siblings not random strangers. Your son might get a bit irritated having to share with his little sister but he’s hardly going to be damaged by it. I shared a room with my 5 year old brother when I was 10 and I’m pretty sure it’s not uncommon, as not everyone has a house with a separate bedroom for all the children. I don’t think you need to worry.

DS (20) and DD (16) regularly share a room when we go away for weekends if they both come. We usually try and book apartments rather than hotels so there is a living room too but they often like to chill on their beds with headphones and iPads and they just change in the bathroom. In your situation the siblings will probably only be sharing to sleep so I would let that family work it out for themselves.

YANBU. Your ds should have his own space. As for the rest of your post about wealth is fuck all to do with it 🙄

I used to have terrible nightmares as a child. Whenever they’d happen (roughly 2/3 times a week) I’d go to my brothers room, he’d pull back the duvet and say ‘jump in’- he is 11 years older than me. I never thought it weird. He was just my big brother, who protected me from the night when I was scared.

@mum11970 I can't decide if you are trying to be rude or you actually think what you wrote is sensible.

Siblings sharing a room on holidays is not the same as siblings sharing a room in their home.

I would casually mention it to your son in terms of how he feels, if he's ok with it then I wouldn't worry, if that changes though then you have every right as his mother to bring it up with your ex.