this is a WWYD too

[itwasadarkandstormy]

A friend has a flat in an area that is quite expensive, but the rent is very low. For whatever reason, he is not living there and a family member from out of town from out of town has been staying there for the last 2 months.

Family member has never offered any form of rent, buying a drink or in fact anything during this time, and friend is getting upset at the lack of thought for costs incurred. Family member is 28 and has a job.

IHBU to expect some contribution and WWYD in this situation?

He needs to grow up and tell the family member that he is now charging him rent. If he refuses to pay, he needs to kick him out.

friend is getting upset at the lack of thought for costs incurred.

Then he needs to ask the family member to leave, and go about letting it out properly.

Although, if he has never asked the family member for any contributions towards the cost of the flat, he can't really be too annoyed that he isn't getting anything.

He's a mug for not addressing this before the person moved in

Your friend is a fool for not protecting his interests and drafting up a lease before this relative moved in.

He needs to ask for money. Even if he's happy to forgo the lost rental income it's still costing money in council tax, insurance, wear and tear etc. And what about water, and electrical bills? Family member should be meeting these costs as the bare minimum.

Friend needs to grow a pair and approach the family member. As PP have said, the basic bills and CT should be covered as an absolute minimum. How long will they give their FM a free ride!?!?

Thanks for the replies. Mother of family member is outraged that some contribution has been asked for, going so far as to so say 'apologies for outstaying our welcome'

Ask the family member to leave by the weekend, there's no point debating with someone who's in it for freebies.

I'd be saying 'apology accepted, now, you'll be making sure you're out by Sunday, won't you? And mind that you clean the place thoroughly before you go'. . .

Has someone explained to the mother about the costs that the flat owner is incurring? Is she being a CF or just a bit dim?

She feels entitled to it

Two months is two pay cheques. If he is not using it, they are still using facilities - extra electricity, water meter (if there is one). And where is the end date?

If she is so outraged then pay for the child to live somewhere.