DD paid £130 to get an assignment done for her.

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DD went away this long weekend and completely ignored her college research project before she went away. Cut a very long story short, she used some of her birthday money (18th) to pay a company (didn't even know they existed) to write a 2500 word project for her.

AIBU to never lend her a penny again? I'm actually fuming.

Ground her. Stop any money you pay her. Start checking on the work she has to do, check when she's doing it and look at the final product.

^ This is not a healthy or realistic for an 18 year old.

Expensive mistake I reckon. She will get caught.

I'm at Uni and a girl on my course has paid for her assignment to be done. I do not have parental funds coming in, if I fail uni, my little girl and I will struggle financially probably for the next 15 years. I work so hard. I hardly see my child and it breaks my heart, and I put an awful lot of effort into my assignments and revision.
At the end of the day, she won't feel any pride for that grade. The guilt for me, personally, would eat me alive. I'd rather fail and struggle financially for years than cheat for a grade. Let this be a lesson to her and hopefully she will not do it at uni. Uni it's a great deal harder than college.

It's good that she regrets this but I'd be careful how she approaches it if she does decide to own up. If she basically goes in and admits plagarism then her tutor will have no choice but to follow procedure. If she said she thinks she has done something really stupid and regrets it and could she please get her essay back and have an extension to re-do it then would most reasonable tutors read between the lines and give her a chance to sort it out? I think either that or keep quiet - she won't do it again.

caughtinanet, I could forgive her for being young. She is 18. If that was my daughter, no, I wouldn't crucify her for doing it. I would have a long talk and help her as much as I could.

Anyway, about the assignment, I won't tell the college on her but I've encouraged her to come clean and hope they understand because you are usually a very good student, she has said she would really prefer to just learn from this experience and never do anything like it again. So I don't know what else to say now.

Big mistake. She will tell the college and they're going to remember it. They will doubt every new work of your daughter.

OutInTheCountry, best to keep quiet and work really hard on the future assignments.

I would be sorely tempted to tell the college. If she does this at uni it will ruin her life.

Is her marking anonymous? If so it's unlikely she will get caught. Even if the style is very different, it would be impossible to prove she bought it. Unless someone dobbed her in of course.

I would be sorely tempted to tell the college. If she does this at uni it will ruin her life.

Op thinks her daughter gets it and won't do it again, why risk losing her place at uni just in case she does do it again and loses her place at uni.

I think you should let it be. I doubt she will get caught and as I said before I know plenty teachers and academics who do their adult children's thesis and essays. I confess I had it done for me as have many others I know. Let it be a one off, cheats and dodgers and divers are everywhere, they soon realise they are only cheating themselves.

I remember in the 1990s when I was learning to drive my driving instructor thought I was nervous and offered to send someone to do the test for me. I declined! I took a great deal of pride in passing my driving test after 3 failed attempts and several driving instructors who had got rid off me, luckily enough one of my previous instructors was their at the test centre for another pupil when I passed, worth the hard work and the look on his face!

I think you should let it be. I doubt she will get caught and as I said before I know plenty teachers and academics who do their adult children's thesis and essays. I confess I had it done for me as have many others I know. Let it be a one off, cheats and dodgers and divers are everywhere, they soon realise they are only cheating themselves.

I remember in the 1990s when I was learning to drive my driving instructor thought I was nervous and offered to send someone to do the test for me. I declined! I took a great deal of pride in passing my driving test after 3 failed attempts and several driving instructors who had got rid off me, luckily enough one of my previous instructors was their at the test centre for another pupil when I passed, worth the hard work and the look on his face!

I know plenty teachers and academics who do their adult children's thesis and essays. I confess I had it done for me as have many others I know. Let it be a one off, cheats and dodgers and divers are everywhere, they soon realise they are only cheating themselves.

Actually no, people like you are not only cheating yourselves - you are also cheating the other people on your course and cheating any future employers who think you might have some degree of honesty and integrity.

This thread is an eye-opener in terms of the posters who have admitted to cheating, selling essays, thinking it was all very enterprising to do so etc.

And ginger do you think you deserve some sort of accolade for not letting someone else take your driving test for you??? And a well done for doing it yourself. like seriously?

Dobbing her in it could mean no job ever in accountancy, banking, law, the public sector or retail!

To snitch on your own child. Nice parents.

@pallisers I think I do as it was rather tempting! Glad I never though.

Dobbing her in it could mean no job ever in accountancy, banking, law, the public sector or retail!

You what?

College records do not get transferred onto the police national computer you know

Some of those sites produce poor quality work and it ends up being a waste of money.

She better read it through properly before submission. I know someone who did this and said the work had American spellings and they had to rewrite before submitting.

Once she gets the mark, she may well decide never to do it again.

ginger you think you deserve an accolade for not cheating on your driving test because it was tempting while admitting you had someone submit essays/thesis for you.

Do you know how far apart you are from normal people?

I think your instinct that she can't leave things like this is right. It would be better if she told her tutor she was unhappy with the assignment and that she would like to do it again. Or simply did it and asked if it could be marked and the second mark be the one recorded as she has had a re-think.
If she goes to university there will be parties and 21sts to contend with and she has to learn to prioritise work. But the main problem is her dishonesty if she lets things stay as they are. She's lying to her college, but she's also lying to herself. Atm she is not meeting the course requirements and doesn't deserve to pass.

Good God! Do any of you realize the degree of cheating that is prevalent today?

It is absolutely foolish to tell your child to tell the school.

I remember working my butt off for a final senior project only to hear the teacher's favorite brag about buying her project. And, looking back, I am certain the teacher knew!

The morality of not cheating is for yourself only. Frankly, after seeing all of the cheating in workplace, school and life, i don't care if my dc cheat or not.

My dd is currently in a high level math class where there is certainly cheating by a group of students. They are using tests from last year. SHE isn't part of the group and she's suffering for it.

Whatever your personal feelings about cheating, DO NOT MAKE HER CONFESS.

Schools aren't judicious, they aren't fair and she will suffer without any good coming from this.

After living to late middle age, I know only a few things for certain; people cheat, people know they cheat and people like me, who followed all the rules aren't the ones who prevail.

Also, schools will torture the ones they can, so just keep your head down and try to be safe.

My instant reaction is - how terrible, what a cheater.

But then I remembered that my elder dd ended up practically wring several of my middle dd’s English and History coursework essays. So who am I to judge?

Elder siblings have been helping out with these things for years - is there any real difference between that and paying a stranger?

Agree Catsinthecupboard.

Sad but true.

They are using tests from last year. But that is standard practice... unless you mean they have access to previous test that the teacher is using to grade them.

Also, schools will torture the ones they can, Beg pardon??!!