To want to know how my daughters date went

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She’s 16 and just been on her first date. My DH and I wanted to know how it was, but she’s just rolled her eyes and called us annoying... be kind

I'm twice your daughters age and wouldn't dream of telling my mum about how a date went sorry. Leave her be, she will tell you if she wants too.

I agree with ^.

Don't ask her again. She doesn't need to tell you or even want to tell you.

No, unless you mean in a very very high level way..? ("Movie was fun, was a good night"-type level)

Not detailed.. you're not a peer / best friend....

My DH and I wanted to know how it was

Also this sounds like you were interrogating her together as she walked in the door... It all seems a bit weirdly vicarious..

Teenagers in my experience tell their parents NOTHING and the more you ask the less they will tell you!!

Back off

You have over shot the runway, if you could have kept your gob shut until tomorrow, you may have garnered some information.

Blown it.

I have an only child and even I can do this...

I ask nothing on the evening, and the next day say, not interested in the details, but did you have a pleasant evening.

They will generally sing like a canary in a coal mine.

What Naomi said.

You have to feign disinterest, then casually ask about something innocent a day or two later.... some detail about the film or something.

It’s not really any of your business? If she wants to talk about with you then that’s fine. I’m pretty sure my parents just asked something vague like “did you have a nice time?” When I got home and I replied “yes” and that was it.

YANBU for being curious. That's natural.

Now they get quite cavalier about what they tell me which is a privilege but sometimes a bit 😵!

I hear ya.

Oh OP i’d ask too!

If she wants to tell you she will. Don't hassle her.

I'm ten years older than your daughter and had my own mum asking lots of questions when I got back from a date last week. I'm an adult now but for some reason it still makes me cringe!! It's just one of those things, it's okay to ask, but it's also okay to get no details

She will tell you if she wants you you to know OP, otherwise back off.

She’ll tell you if/when she wants to. “Did you have a nice evening” is enough.

I think it's fine to ask but if she doesn't want to say much then tell her that's fine too.

Also, think about the way you ask. My mum would always ask about experiences and I was always put off answering if she gave out anxiety/excitement vibes. It made everything seem like a bigger deal when I was processing my own feelings, as if I had to then think about hers too because she was obviously having an emotional reaction to the situation. I never minded my dad asking me things because he asked as if he couldn't care less

My dd tells me all the time asks for advice. Tells me what other teens say they be doing and she thinks Im not going to do that.
I just ask did you have a nice day she usually does unless I have given out to her. I have never met or seen her bf of 3 months we had organised a couple times but he got to nervous she goes to his house all the time.

Did you ever find out how the date went. Did they have date no2