Is this odd behaviour or am I overreacting?

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We had a bbq at the weekend and asked PIL to join us, FIL text me the day before to ask if they should bring anything and I said no need unless they wanted something special, the next day they turned up with 3 carrier bags of food including homemade quiche, sausage rolls, 16 burgers, 2 packs of sausages, salad,18 bread buns and two desserts, a multipack of crisps and god knows what else.

For context there were 4 of us and 1 small child. MIL has got form for over catering but AIBU to think it’s a bit rude to turn up with that much food when you’re not the host, it felt like she didn’t trust us to buy enough food to feed them properly.

Did autocorrect accidentally text "please come to our bbq and bring all the food"?

My mum does this but she's trying to be helpful! I'm sure they had good intentions!

I would have thought that was a nice thing to do! Do they like to indulge their family?

Could they have already picked up the food before they sent the message?

Homemade quiche would have to have been made in advance?

After reading so many threads about fil/mil not feeding guests or one guests I think you are very lucky!
I imagine they were trying to help and just got carried away but didn't mean to offend (although that depends on your relationship)

I think she is trying to be helpful, but it was just so over the top it felt patronising. Also she was a bit annoyed when I asked her to take the leftover food home, but I’d already done a full shop so the fridge and freezer were full and it would have just gone to waste.

I do this I show love and affection with food.

@Needcoffeecoffeecoffee that’s true, there’s no chance you’d starve at their house

I understand why you may feel a bit put off but I’m sure they had good intentions. My mil is a bit like this at times (my mother not at all so complete opposites).

That’s bonkers - four burgers in buns and three sausages per adult from their meat alone!

@LEDadjacent exactly! And bearing in mind MIL can just about manage half a burger in a bun before she’s stuffed and needs to lie down!

Bigger things in life to worry about

Most people have the opposite problem - the rellies descending on them with empty hands and open mouths.

I’d just eat as much as I can and that be that

My inlaws do this. Chest freezer and bung extra in there. Usually does a weeks.woth of meals

They're being kind, be grateful

But if the OP can't freeze the food, there's far too much for them to eat and they won't take it home, it wasn't nice or helpful.

OP have you got other family or friends you could give the food to, so it doesn't get wasted?

@BarbaraofSevillle I sent it back with them, they’ve got a chest freezer and a much nicer bbq than ours so I’m sure it will get used up

There's no agenda.
My lovely MIL would always, ALWAYS bring food, even when I asked her not to. Feeding people was an act of love for her. I think she was incapable of turning up empty handed!
I just served what I was planning to, alongside a small amount of each thing she brought. Fortunately our family get together meals were never formal. The only thing that was a pain was my kitchen and fridge being cluttered up with the extra stuff.

Don't take it personally, OP.

@IamPickleRick we would have to widen all the doors if we did that 🤣