Brother suicidal

[Minglewhilstsingle]

Good afternoon,

I'm looking for some advice as to how I can help my brother.

I believe he is struggling with depression and has over the last few months been having suicidal thoughts.
Our mother dragged him to the drs who gave him anti depressants, for reasons unknown to us, he has stopped taking them.

Last night he left a note saying he couldn't carry on and loved us all etc... this is probably the 5th note left now....
he disappeared, we looked for him, he was gone all night and came back home this morning... as far as I am aware, he didn't do anything.

We have called the police, took him to the Drs. He won't accept our help. He admits he needs help but says it's something he has to do on his own! Yet doesn't do anything about it.

I can't just sit here and do nothing but he won't accept my / anyone's help.
What am I supposed to do?

Thanks for listening.

Sadly, I don't think there's anything you can do. If he wants process help, he is the only one who can make the effort to get it. Please make sure you don't allow him to manipulate you with his constant threats. It's possible that you might need to distance yourself from him. I'm very sorry you're going through this.

Havent really got any advice sorry. Just wanted to say how sorry I am you're in this position. My cousin took his own life a few days ago and it has been a really difficult time for my family. I really hope your brother finds the help he needs. What about a therapist?

Can’tThinkOfName I’m so sorry to hear about your cousin, that’s so tragic.

OP, I think this thread should have a trigger warning, it’s going to be very painful for some posters.

I’m sorry you and your DM are having to cope with your DB’s depression. You’re clearly a very loving mum and sister. But I have a DB with serious MH issues and sometimes you do need to back off for your own sakes; it’s hard to do but sometimes it’s for the best. Your DB needs professional help, and sometimes help isn’t forthcoming when families keep picking up the pieces. (Been there!)

I'm sorry to hear that your brother is feeling so low. Developing support networks are key. Would he accept details of support services? CALM and PAPYRUS are 2 that are good. Also as hard as it is has he talked to you about plans, does he have any? If so would it be possible, would he agree to you or family removing his means? For example removing any non essential medication from the home?
Keeping open lines of communication is important. Mind have some useful information regarding how to support someone who is suicidal. I hope you and your family get through this and please ensure you have support in place for yourself as supporting others can be emotionally draining. Take care