To think this is desperately sad?

[IronicSeraphim]

I live on a block of six semi's, all with big gardens.

All but two of them have young children in. One, has five (aged 4ish to 16ish).

Two of those houses of children (including the one with five kids) never play in the garden. Never.

I've been a SAHP for three years and I've NEVER seen these kids in the garden. I know they're still there as o see them coming and going and on the school run.

I know it's nothing to do with me, but I can't help wondering why you'd do this?

If I need to collect a parcel from my neighbours, then I'll pay more attention to the door.

But the truth is that the neighbours in front of me are only home for periods during the year and I'm never sure if they're in or out. I don't have the habit of taking notes of which neighbours' cars are in the building's garage or not. Or which windows are open or not.
Because it's none of my business.

I would give everything I own to have a garden!!!!!

For my child to play in I mean

Op I think the point people are making is... Do you stand staring at their garden for 12 hours a day? If not how on Earth do you know they NEVER go into the garden!

posters are just after a fight now, I'd ignore. It's pretty obvious if your neighbours are outside or not, even with a big garden. It's becoming silly now.

Really? I'm sitting in my kitchen which faces my garden and I have no idea if my neighbours are outside of not

Or not*

That's because you're a desperately sad person who isn't outside all the time.

I’m definitely not after a fight!!!
The point that is being made is that how can you judge someone’s life as “desperately sad” if you hand only ever seen a snap shot of their life?

My children rarely okay in my garden; not for the want of trying on my part though. It's a small city garden and they're just not very into sports (and even if they were there wouldn't be much room). They are both slim and fit (they do swimming, gym, dancing, boxing) and we got to the park quite often too. They just don't want to go out there and I don't really feel that I can force them. It's a bit disappointing but not really sad I don't think.

it's freezing here, I think I'll stick to being desperately sad.

My kids refuse to play in the garden. Does my head in.
They do however get plenty of exercise and fresh air from all the parks, walks and other outdoorsy stuff that we do.

My kids almost live in the garden in the summer- they become a little feral, but I quite like it. Covered in sand, mud and leaves. They have a sand pit inside their wooden Wendy house and a mud kitchen. They have chickens and Guinean pigs to play with. I love gardening and planting veg which they help with... I can’t imagine them not going into the garden. It agree OP it’s sad they don’t use the space.

It’s not that I’m so engrossed in what I’m doing at every minute, it’s that I’m not remotely engrossed in what neighbors kids are up to. It genuinely isn’t something that I can even imagine registering with me to the degree that I’d feel the need to post about about it on the internet.

We moved last summer, prior to that our small garden wasn't somewhere you'd want to spend much time. Regretfully DS12 and DS7 didn't spend much time out there and so aren't in the habit.
Nowadays our tiny new build garden is much more inviting and DD