My mother and I don't get on and had a pretty big bust up last year where I told her that I've had enough and I asked her to leave me alone. Prior to this she hasn't been very involved in my 2 sons lives. She's visited my 4 year old approximately 12 times since he was born and she has made it quite clear that she finds the baby 'boring.' When she did visit (pre-bust up) she stayed for a couple of hours, and shoved a camera in their faces for the duration....then she returns home and immediately posts the pictures on social media...making out that she's super gran or something. My eldest son needs reminding about who she is prior to visits. He's a friendly, confident little chap so he speaks to her even though he is unfamiliar.
At the weekend I met up with her to enable her to have some time with the boys (I'm trying to maintain the same level of contact between them - 3 visits a year roughly.) Yet again she has a camera shoved in their faces! Barely any quality time with them...just ''say bloody cheese.'' My 4 year old is too polite to say no but he was uncomfortable. My baby doesn't know any different.
Anyway...I sent her a text message asking her politely not to post the pictures on social media, asking her instead to keep the pictures as part of her private collection. She clearly took offence to this and asked why I was trying to prevent her from being a ''proud grandmother.'' Our relationship is irrevocably damaged (long story) and I have no intention of retracing my steps in that department.
The pictures are for the benefit of her friends to tell them what a fabulous gran she is! It just pisses me off!!! AIBU?