Ok so I'm a single parent of two as I have split from their dad. He has contact with them but usually just a couple of hours a day, doesn't have them overnight (but that's a different thread) and doesn't really take them out outside of my home, despite me trying to encourage him too.
So I have recently rekindled an old friendship as we're now both single so we're just seeing where things go romantically. We're obviously a very very far way off him meeting my children, my mum would introduce us to new partners very quickly so I'm extremely cautious of not doing this.
He works away in the week and is at home on the weekends, he has his DC one night a week/2 days over the weekend leaving a Friday night and a Sunday night to see each other. This works brilliantly for me as I'm obviously busy with the DC through the week so it's a nice thing to look forward to seeing him on a weekend night.
I invite him round mine because I have no other childcare. He only ever comes round when they're both flat out asleep so i know there's no chance of them meeting. My mum couldn't mind them as she's very much a "ive raised my children" type of person. XP won't have them because he's an arsehole not got the "room" apparently.
Now XP has caught wind that I'm seeing someone. I don't really care because as far as I'm concerned I'm a grown adult who is allowed to move on from toxic relationships, just as he is doing with multiple people. But he has seemed to have a massive issue about him coming round when the kids are in bed as this makes me irresponsible to have him in the house (?)
I have known my friend for about 8 years, used to see him regularly when we were both single, I know him very well but XP thinks this is all lies.
So AIBU (I'm not) to invite this man round while the kids are in bed or does XP have a point and it is abit stupid and I should probably just stay single forever as I have no other chance to socialise but in my own home?