To ask ex to sort contact out?

[ReliefwithacapitalR]

Recent split. One child. Exes family live close and love to phone and pop in at inconvenient times with no regard for anything or anybody. AIBU to leave him to sort any access from the in laws to our child?

They've been knocking on the door recently despite him moving out and I want that to stop too

I never see the point of isolating people out and jeopardising what is normally a good reciprocal relationship. But lay some ground rules.

What if - he turns out to be a bit feckeless with turning up for access - why would you be arsy with the other 50% of your childs family?

As I say, ground rules, but dont fall out with them. Its not worth it.

Depends how often they do it. Two or three times a day is OTT but one or twice a week wouldn't be a problem. They obviously still consider you as part of the family.

I can't don't want to isolate anyone. I however want my ex to sort contact out so on the days he has our child to go and see them. I don't like their company and I don't like unannounced visits and now we've split surely I'm not obliged to bother much anymore?