SIL pinched my friend

[Home77]

My brother's wife got in touch with my old best friend (who lives closer to them) and has befriended them!

IABU in thinking this is a bit of an odd thing to do! I hardly see BF anymore but feels bit strange now.

I can't imagine trying to befriend my husband's sisters best friend, because well it;s not really my friend is it! Is it not more normal to find your own friends than take others?

Am I weird? I actually like it when people I like get on and become friends!

I feel it takes some of the pressure off me that friendship sometimes causes.

I am a good and loyal friend, but I am not one to like regular demands for meet ups. The more friends my friends have, the less likely that is to occur!

Hmmm long-ago-ex boyfriend's wife made friends with my Dad and I made friends with current partner's long-ago-ex girlfriend and the whole lot of us might easily be found at a social event being friendly to each other including a dear BF of mine from school who I have little contact with these days but who Ps ex GF very much took to...AWBU?

Home77
I Can't wait for the kids to go back to school!

Your SIL stole your friend. You sound like a seven year old.

It's the getting in touch I find a bit strange.

Fair enough if they've been introduced at a party or met at a baby group or something, but to be honest, if someone just randomly contacted me (how did she "get in touch" with her?) just because we had a mutual friend or relative, I'd find it slightly odd.

I'm guessing both of them are the type that accepts facebook friend requests from anyone and everyone.

If you're a mature adult then yours isn't a usual response, as I suspect you know or you wouldn't have posted here asking if your reaction is unreasonable. I'd be inclined to make the suggestion (intended as constructive) that you might want to explore what is behind it.

well it's happening with your 'bf' consent and she's actively participating in it.....maybe have a word with her about 'wtf?!'

It's not like she's taking your friend away from you - you weren't in contact much anyway! I don't get how them being friends affects your friendship at all!

I guess it would be a bit odd to contact someone you don't know out of the blue but presumably she knew the woman a bit or had some reason to get in contact if they're now friends then obviously your friend was happy enough to be contacted!

I suggest the three of you arrange to go out together soon. I'm sure you will see that you are still included. They may meet more often, but that doesn't stop you arranging things too.

How old are you , nine?

I'd find it a bit weird and quite intrusive I think - I'd be paranoid about BF sharing personal things with SIL that I'd prefer she didn't know! Unfortunately, there's not a lot you can do about it, without looking extraordinarily petty and silly, which is a shame cos I'd want to do something to discourage it, at least!

I hope it's not too uncomfortable for you @Home77, fingers crossed they'll get bored of each other and move on quickly...

Bugger, thought from the title it meant actually, physically pinched someone. I thought finally someone with in laws as nutty as mine😀

The Green Party stole my BF

We use to chat daily and then suddenly she had to go canvassing
for something she really believes in and is very busy.

Damn her views and getting off her arse and doing something about them.

sarcastic response

Uh oh Home77 did you say something to BF about SIL that wasn't totally complimentary and now you're worried

Girl maybe OP said to each one, "I feel really sorry for BF/SIL, she's a bit sad only has me as her friend due to her crazy issues".
That would make them both curious!