Hotel room on my own with baby and toddler?

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Planning a couple of short breaks over summer. DS is 2.5yo and DD is nearly 9mo. DH can't / doesn't want to come. Only going a couple of hours' drive away but am not confident driving and get tired easily, so would prefer to stay the night and drive back the next day or day after.

Am pondering getting a family room in Travelodge (£90-£100 for two nights is good!). However, I've never shared a room with my son before 🙈.

I'd have a double and he'd have a pullout bed and the baby would go in a cot in the corner.

Am worried about us all disturbing each other. Aibu to consider this? Would it be more stressful than its worth? 😩

Thanks! X

Wouldn't it be easier to have one of them in bed with you?

What's the difference in their nighttime routines as hard to say if they will
Disturb each other

I'd be more comfortable if the 2.5 year old was in the double bed with me. And if they wake up during the night, they'll resettle very quickly. Seems a bit unnecessary to put them in a separate bed tbh.

You're worried about sharing a room with your 2 year old son? That's a bit strange, but I'm sure you'll be fine. Afterall it's only one night.

They’ll be fine. My two love staying in hotels. Just make sure you bring some activities and snacks.

You'll be fine - it'll be an adventure.

Your ds has never spent a night with you? Not even if he has been poorly?

I imagine you might not sleep as well as in your bed but we went away with our dc from 3 months.

You’ll be fine and well done for going for it. I’ve stayed in hotel rooms with 2 little ones with a similar age gap and yes it took a while for them to fall asleep from the excitement of being in a hotel but really it was all fine - but assuming they go to sleep before you take something to do / read as presumably you won’t want the telly on after their bedtime. If budget allows (appreciate it might not) why not book somewhere that does room service etc and make the most of it.

Im not sure I understand this post? youre worried about sharing a room with your children?

Thanks all for your replies. Yes am worried about whether they will go to sleep ok with me being in the room. I usually read with DS until 19:50 and then leave him to fall asleep on his own (he usually falls asleep around 20:30.

After I leave DS, I then put DD to sleep in her cot (she usually goes to sleep around 20:30) but she's in her own room at home without DS disturbing us (he jabbers away until he falls asleep!).

Just wondering if it's doable or if it would be more stress 🙄

When we go on holiday as a family of 5 we all share the same room. My DSD doesn't like my snoring at all!

Try it at home for a night if you are worried.

You will be fine; but Premier Inn is much nicer than Travelodge :-)

I’d do bedtime as normal, lights out, and then go and have a long bath with a glass of wine. That way you’re not lying still trying not to breathe but you’re still keeping an ear out for disturbances.

What a weird thing to worry about

I don't think it's a weird thing to worry about. When my kids were little we used to sit in the corridor outside the room while they fell asleep, so that it was as much like home as possible! In fact we put dd2 to bed and sat outside with dd1, then once we were sure she was asleep, we put dd1 to bed too. Only you will know what could work for your kids!

I think it’s doable, but I also get why you’re asking.

We took our (then) 5mo and 3yo away for a couple of nights last year and the 3yo was doing laps of our room in the pitch black till gone 11 🤦‍♀️. Dh and I tried hanging out in the bathroom first, thinking it would be like doing bedtime at home, so story, into bed and then we leave the room. But 3yo just came and knocked on the door, knowing we were there.

So Dh and I got into the big bed. 3yo just ran around, jumping on our bed and giggling. Eventually I got into the camp bed on the floor with the 3yo and that seemed to do the trick.

The baby didn’t stir once luckily, or I’d have found it stressful with both of them not sleeping till that time.

It was fine, but it wasn’t restful. If we want a restful break we now make sure we book somewhere with a separate room for dc1.

I'd just stick him in bed with you and be done with it! Don't forget to take earphones for your phone/tablet so you can watch or listen to something when they do go to sleep. And wine!

I hated sharing the room with DD until she was around 7-8.

We never got to sleep on a decent time, she would stay up, not settling, which meant a bad late night for all of us. Apart from that DD was and still is an unruly sleeper, when she is ill and in our bed one of us moves out so we get at least some space without being kicked and suffocated.

Can you try it out at a friend’s house or grandparents first? At home will be Pointless as it is too familiar.

Oh forgot to mention, we obviously tried having 3yo in with us. Nope! Still didn’t settle and jumped about in the dark, with dh and me trying to remain in control but still whispering so as not to wake the baby 😂. It was funny in hindsight. But never again.

I think dc1 is a little on the spirited side though... 🤦‍♀️. I know other children who would be grand.

Too be fair I think 3/4 was the worst age for settling. A long bath followed by a radio program was what we did. They can sleep in the car the next day.

I find it strange that you have never shared a room with your two year old, and even if your DH was coming too, you would still be in a room all together wouldn't you? I would just share the double.

Thanks @dreichuplands! That is reassuring!

Thanks for your replies. No, I haven't shared a room with my son since we moved him to his own room at 4.5 months 😀. We had two holidays at Butlins when he was just under 1 and just under 2 and he slept in the travel cot in the hallway area.

We had a 2 bedroom apartment (DH and I have separate rooms due to snoring!)