Really I think I am BU because there’s a hell of a lot worse that people sometimes have to worry about like health issues or whatever and we’ve been through some of that ourselves so am a bit surprised / disappointed in self being fussed with something so petty but there you go. My daughter is 14 weeks and spent quite a lot of time in hospital when born and had various heath scares which all were resolved happily and I’ve posted about elsewhere and have probably made me a bit protective or pfb about her even though she’s our second. I don’t know whether it’s because dh had to go back to work after a fortnight and tends to take the lead with our toddler ds whilst I’m feeding or something and I had to take her to loads of extra appts in the early weeks but she is very different with me to everyone else, including him to a degree. I get the biggest cheery grins and coos, he gets some but nowhere near as many and with everyone else including grandparents etc she’s even sparing and sometimes doesn’t smile back at all. We had loads family over all Easter and cue relentless comments from my mum, aunts like “oooh she doesn’t like me does she” or “she’s a serious little thing isn’t she?” Or my absolute favourite “I’m sure brother / cousin etc was smilier at this age. I know it’s silly but I find myself taking it personally and even wanting her to sort of “perform” better for them which feels like I’m being disloyal to her because she’s ace as she is and if anything probably a bit overwhelmed at big gatherings. I’m sure she will warm up a bit in the coming months with bigger groups and less familiar faces, I actually think my ds was similar and it’s been misremembered - quite shy at theee months and life and soul at six months - but feels disloyal even thinking like this. Am I BU and should buck up or would other mumsnetters get this way too?