An immediate relative has booked to get married next Easter in Sri Lanka (over 2hrs from any of the sites of today's bombings).
Me, DH & our 2 young children (who are due to be bridesmaid & page boy) have been invited.
I was devastated by this mornings news & thoughts have been with everyone affected.
I'm feeling like I've got a huge knot in my stomach, I know that no quick decisions can be made regarding if we will travel or not, and DH has already made it clear he was not happy that we were having to travel so far for the wedding (we are fortunate not to have financial issues & kids old enough to do long haul).
Seeing a bit about it on the news with kids in bed prompted him to say about what a tricky situation it was and whether we should risk taking the kids... something that's been on my mind too, but also empathising with my relative, knowing this is their holiday of a lifetime/they've already made payments and foreseeing that I'm going to be caught in the middle of a battle between them all... all I can think of is risks to my all of families safety/potential disappointment & heartbreak (my DD has already been counting down to it).
My husband has accused me of putting my immediate relative before my children (I took it as read that with him already saying about the kids safety that it was implicit that they were my first thought) but that I'm also in a tricky position with how things play out/how I even discuss this with my relative... but no apparently I have swung from being more concerned with how my relative would take news of us not going (if we don't go - although I don't know what would reassure DH - he doesn't know either at the moment), to, following tears from me about how I feel so under pressure from between him & my immediate family, but apparently it's not them, it's the situation that's putting me under pressure & I'm only actually caring about myself.
If it was his friends or family that had invited us there, I feel I'd be much more supportive of him... AIBU?