Accept the things you can’t change?

[missnomoney]

Is anyone really able to do this without feeling stressed or depressed or anxious. If you knew something bad was going to happen tomorrow and you couldn’t help it how could you be content today?

Please give me any of your coping mechanisms, books or films that let you escape..,

Meditation, the headspace app is great

It comes from constantly trying to change things and realising that what you do makes no bloody difference anyway. So in a way it actually becomes less stressful and more relaxing to not do it.

Think about all the people who have lived before you and have gone through enormous upheaval. Think about how big the world is. How big the universe is. It will all tick along way after humanity ends. We are a tiny and insignificant part of it all so just enjoy the ride.

This helps me - sorry if not your thing!

I get very anxious about climate change and my child’s future xx

I suppose the only thing you have the potential ability to change is your personal response to the "bad stuff" that inevitably happens in all its various forms.

I find I get stressed at things I know I can change or think I have control over because I feel guilty or responsible.

If I don't have control over it I have to make my peace with it. Sometimes it's really hard, sometimes easier.

I have a close relative who consistently makes poor decisions regarding thieir health to the point where they could die. I really struggle with this and went through a lot of stress before I have had to accept I can't change it. It's taken angst to get there.

When I know that something tiresome can't be avoided, I contemplate what I've already survived. Among the milder ones: breaking both legs, boarding school, my mother, Felixstowe container terminal, campylobacter and so forth.

I try and think, "am I still going to be worried about this in 20 years?" And if the answer's no, it helps me not to worry! If the answer is yes, it's usually time for some self-reflection.