To punch my sugar nazi virtue signalling twat of a brother in his smug face?

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For offering my kids the Easter eggs bought by other family members for his kids (my nephews) because his kids ‘aren’t allowed chocolate’ (passive aggressive subtext: unlike mine, who are allowed, nay encouraged, to destroy their bodies with the ravages wrought by the cocoa bean, due to my inferior, profligate parenting)
Well fucking bully for you, big man, but a) fuck off b) no one cares if your kids have chocolate or not but it would be considerate to TELL PEOPLE so they can get them something that IS acceptable and will know their relatives cared enough to get them something c) if you really can’t bear to have chocolate in your house can I suggest food banks, care homes, churches or any other deserving cause might be more appropriate than making the point that you are (in your eyes) a better parent than me. Oh and that whilst your children are too precious to be sullied by sugar, saturated fat and cocoa, it’ll do for mine.
What a tool.

I'd be tempted to open the boxes & eat the lot there and then. Pass the packaging back to them to put in their bin.

His kids will be the ones spending all their dinner money on sweets & fizzy pop. I was always allowed sweets in moderation when I was a child, we used to call at a small sweet shop on the walk home from primary school, I can still remember the taste of white chocolate mice, rainbow drops & sherbet. Now I can take or leave sweet stuff, it doesn't bother me. My friend wasn't allowed to eat sweets as a child, now as an adult she has a real problem as she can't stop eating sugary stuff & is borderline type 2 diabetic but still won't stop.

We used to holiday with people like this. One of the most memorable occasions was when they discussed our bad nutritional choices ( Nutella) in front of us, and as if we were not there.

Haribo knuckle duster made my day

I had a school friend whose parents were like this anti sugar, anti-sweets and no pocket money allowed as they had to approve anything she bought. What her parents didn't know was, that when we were in Brownies/Guides and did church parade, their little darling used to steal money from the church collection to stuff herself with sweets from the corner shop on her way home!

I hate this, but especially when people are so thick about it. I've actually heard people say the cake they made for their DC birthday is fine and "healthy" because it's all organic. Like that's not actual sugar, it's just some kind of health-giving elixir because it's organic. Likewise the ones who tut tut at chocolate but feed their kids endless raisins and those fruit stick things that are basically full of sugar

The worst was when I was growing up (these people aren't new) and at easter there were some kids who couldn't have chocolate because sugar was evil. So they were given the chocolate alternative in those days, carob. (Which is vile and tastes like cardboard, the only thing it has in common with chocolate is that it's brown) For four times the price at the health food shop, they could get carob easter eggs, which were packed with sugar because that was the only way to get them to taste bearable. Gah it makes me so cross!

So true about self-regulating - yes sugar is unhealthy but it's everywhere and cheap. It's better for kids to grow up knowing you can have it in small amounts or else it makes you feel sick, and just seeing it as one of various types of food, instead of the ultimate forbidden fruit.

Ewitsahooman this!!

My mum was a total junk food nazi. Sometimes it felt like she was more concerned that it'd make me gain weight and didn't want "fat" child more than she actually cared about my health.

As soon as I was old enough to walk down to the local shop with my pocket money I was spending it all on junk food and eating it secretly-- thus years of having an unhealthy relationship with food began. I went from a size 16 as a teenager (due to just going crazy when I had my own money to buy what i wanted), right down to a size 6, back up to a 14, down to a 6 again. I've been 10/12 the last few years and am happy with that.

my point is- compeltely cutting off whole food groups rarely ends well. Sometimes it does, and the kids follow on to be exactly like their parents but more often than not they'll go nuts when they have access to all the sugary fatty foods out there and won't have any idea how to limit or have self control over it. He'll be the one having the last laugh in years to come

I am in the "just wait until his kids are older" camp.

Do these ridiculous parents seriously think that their kids will never ever try these things?

DD2 shares her birthday with two or three other girls she used to go to primary school with. One year I got together with a couple of the other mums to plan food for the shared party. I remember the question of "should we include any chocolate spread sandwiches because X will not let her child have them?" coming up. X was not with us at that meeting. We included the chocolate spread, amongst a variety of other fillings and decided that X could police her own child herself if she was that bothered. She may have tried, but her child was still seen eating chocolate when she wasn't looking.

Well the yoyo bear stuff is bad because if sticks to the teeth and if the yoghurt is flavoured then there will be some sweetener in it. I assume he also gives them dried fruit - which my dentist says causes horrible dental decay in small children.

I assume the kids are still small. Once they hit nursery or school they will discover haribo and that will be the end of his free range organic kiddies.

DS really didn’t like chocolate until he was about 6 or 7. I remember trying to get him an advent calendar that didn’t have chocolate and the woman in Smith looking at me as if I’d requested an advent calendar with LSD in it.

Oh yes, I had childhoods friends like this. Great when they came round and stole food. Just what you want to teach your children.

Formerlyfrikadela01 that made me snort!

My kids are great eaters and I am a bit smug when they're asking for seafood and eating vegetables.

On the other hand DS was a bugger for licking things, all things, and DD used to like putting the cat's ears in her mouth so there are issues either way.

OP, I'm actually laughing. He's an utter fool! They're all full of sugar! I'm just gonna go and snort a line of icing sugar as people like that think it's like crack. (I actually used to icing sugar by the spoonful, and the chocolate flavour icing sugar too, that was so nice and I miss it!)

Organix can fuck off, they use palm oil ('sustainable' means fuck all and just means people feel better about it.)

I've been given some Easter stuff I don't want cos it's got palm oil in it, but I don't make a song and dance about it. I just say thank you and give it to someone else.

they’re allowed honey. And Yoyo Bears. And Organix. And Little Yoe yoghurts. Cos there’s no sugar because they’re ORGANIC you know lol!

if someone gives you a gift you get your kids to say a polite thank you, take it home and either shrug of off, put it in a cupboard and see if they forget, eat it slowly, donate it and talk to them about why you don’t like them to have much/any.

He’s modelling v poor behaviour to his kids!

When my first baby was born I was determined to avoid giving him sweets. When he was just shy of 12 months I took him to England - long story short; his great grandmother, born in the late 1800's but still very spry, gave him a whole thrupenny Cadbury's Chocolate bar. I never said a word. She loved him to bits, bless her heart.

The sight of my baby eating that chocolate and nana's adoring face was well worth it.

My next door neighbours are all super fit and healthy. The daughter is now 14 and has is very proud that shes only eaten McDonald's twice in her whole life. If she goes out with her teenage friends they go to Nando's for a salad.
So they don't necessarily turn into junk food craving teens.
We had very free access to crisps, biscuits and chocolate as children and I do remember school friends coming round and behaving really rudely just so they could shove in as many treats as they could before they went home.

I came off sugat for a while, as an adult, years ago.
I went to the dentist and got told off for eating too many sweets
She wouldn't believe me that I didn't eat any, only fruit.

He’s like it about everything, tbh. For example, we were talking about my kid’s school (primary) and I was saying that I found it sad that art, music, team sports and drama have been eroded from the curriculum by stealth, and he said ‘are you secure it’s not just a shit school? My kids do all that stuff’ YES I AM SURE I’M A FUCKING TEACHER!!!

A friend's child was not allowed sweet things. When we visited she went to the kitchen to get a plate of fairy cakes with iced tops, a huge treat. All the iced tops had been licked off.

I'm a moderation In all things kind of person,DD had sweets on a Saturday after swimming.
However Birthdays,Christmas and especially Easter as much Chocolate as you can manage.
And now she's 15 it is needed once a month!
I would rather she ate good honest sugar laden food knowing what she is eating than sweeteners or sugar hidden as a 'natural'ingredient.
I do wish she'd stop hugging me today and putting her popping candy filled head next to my ear.

What kind of schmuck parent gives their kids easter eggs away?!?

Call social services. Police too. Imagine what he does in private.

My SIL is like that, and equally graceless. She had a go at me for allowing my then 2 year to eat a square of chocolate on Boxing Day. I remain proud that I didn't tell her to fuck off.

Her children came for my DCs birthday and the look on their faces when they saw a bag of Maltesers... They would have ripped their cousins arm off for that sugar.

Tbh I think tendencies to binge on sugar are innate. My DD (despite the boxing day incident ) only drinks water, dislikes Haribo and sweets, and can take or leave chocolate, cake etc. My DS is of the 'rip your arm off' school of thought.

Make a set of brass knuckles out of Haribo rings and then punch him in the face

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CigarsofthePharoahs this one liner will have me waking up at 2am and remembering it and laughing!

How rude of him- that's not good parenting- to demonstrate making a point of rejecting gifts!

Of course your kids should be able to eat their cousin's choc eggs and of course your DB should have told family members that his kids are to be deprived of chocolate so that they could buy something 'acceptable'!.

He sounds hideous OP

I don't think I'd be able to resist egging him on.

Uptight parents create stressed children who in turn become stressy adults in my experience. I'd rather give them Easter eggs than create mental health and food issues for life TBH.

My favourite self-righteous parent was at one of my kids' birthday parties. She objected to bloody everything- the juice was wrong, the milk was wrong, the water wasn't suitable because it had too much sodium. Her precious didn't eat anything but organic vegetables wafted with a seasoning of wholesomeness (so the carrot sticks were wrong too and you'd have thought the fruit salad was made with battery acid) and drank only the purest branded water. She was a real treat.
At the end of the party, her kid had to be pried away from the chocolate fountain, where he was using a biscuit to chisel off the last bits of chocolate. He's obviously had a great time and was really put out at having to go home.
I didn't even mention it when he grabbed an extra bag of sweets on his way out. You don't need to say anything to these people because they have provided you with entertainment for years to come! I hate planning parties, but we have a quiet snigger at the prospect of another "Little Jimmy" incident and that makes it seem less like hard work, somehow.