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People wandering in and out of your house

26 replies

WhiteDust · 21/04/2019 13:25

I'm watching re-runs of 'Mum' on iPlayer. Ignoring the fact that the majority of the characters are an absolute nightmare,
I'm envious of this busy little house. The comings and goings of a number of people.
AIBU to feel like this or should I be grateful that nobody visits ever?
Do people gravitate towards your house?

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MikeUniformMike · 21/04/2019 13:28

I loved Mum. I'd hate the people wandering in and out. I don't even like people turning up without letting me know in advance.

Deccax · 21/04/2019 13:30

I can’t be arsed to keep the house tidy enough for constant visitors Grin I like having people over though, I just need a bit of warning!!

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WhiteDust · 21/04/2019 14:07

I like the idea of people 'popping round', always something going on.
Busy lives...lots of chat.

Back to reality. If the doorbell so much as rings here I get annoyed and I hate unexpected visitors. Blush

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GreenTulips · 21/04/2019 14:10

I grew up in a large family and everyone pops in, just seems natural!

WiddlinDiddlin · 21/04/2019 14:55

I'd rather people wandered in than knocked though, I cannot be arse to keep getting up, settling dogs etc.

I much preferred it when we had a 'walk in and shout hello' household, but then I lived next door but one to my best mate, in my home town...

Now I'm 200 miles away and gone are the days of wandering in to raid the fridge or have a witter.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 21/04/2019 15:05

You have posted on AIBU on MN where most posters expect you to turn up by invitation only with at least a weeks notice and the door should not be opened to anybody who dares to knock unexpectedly. And no MIL should ever be given a key.

MrsSteve · 21/04/2019 15:07

Mum was so underrated.

The characters were just brilliant - esp Pauline Grin

MikeUniformMike · 21/04/2019 19:13

The acting was very good.

MrsSteve · 21/04/2019 19:14

It was - I can’t wait for the 3rd series Grin

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 21/04/2019 19:15

I loved Mum but can't remember who wandered in and out of her house Confused

Topsy44 · 21/04/2019 19:16

I loved Mum. Does anyone know when the 3rd series is going to be aired?

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 21/04/2019 19:16

Nobody comes in my house. Ever. I'm a social butterfly when I'm out but absolutely hate entertaining at home.

It's my space and it's where I go when I need to stop the world for a while Blush

Farmerswifey12 · 21/04/2019 19:18

I like a busy house, hate not getting any notice though! My DH is from a family of people who just pop in, drives me crazy!

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WhiteDust · 21/04/2019 19:33

Topsy I want to know know too! No news yet I don't think!

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pinkgloves · 22/04/2019 12:56

People walk in and out of each other's houses where I live. Even people you don't know which is annoying but they usually knock.

Nobody locks their door here, I don't even know where our front door key is!

caughtinanet · 22/04/2019 12:59

I hated Mum, I couldn't relate to a single character but I do like a busy house, happy for people to pop in and call by

Goandplay · 22/04/2019 13:04

I think I’d prefer to visit the busy house than be the busy house.

I grew up in a house like that and loved it.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 22/04/2019 13:05

But who wandered in and out of her house? I just remeber BBQ's and Xmas parties etc where she'd invited people.Confused

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 22/04/2019 13:06

Personally I like a busy house with people calling in!

tor8181 · 22/04/2019 18:00

with 2 kids that have complex disabilities each,and neither dont like their "space"invaded this situation with be a nightmare here

BabyDarlingDollfaceHoney · 23/04/2019 10:35

Very unmumsnetty but we are a family of "popping round"ers and often visit each other unannounced. I like it and feel no need to go NC just because my mum lets herself in with her spare key now and again 😂

Whenever friends meet up it is always assumed that we will meet at mine which again I don't mind, I like hosting.

AvocadosBeforeMortgages · 23/04/2019 10:48

Growing up DGM gave all the neighbours who she was friends with house keys so they could let themselves in without her bothering to go to the door.

You could usually guarantee that people would turn up for a cup of coffee at about 11 - we should have bought shares in McVities.

It's one of the reasons she's still able to stay in her own home in her late 90s - we know that if friends or neighbours spot anything amiss they call a family member so we can sort it. It's also an excellent way to limit the loneliness now she's a widow.

maddening · 23/04/2019 11:13

I would hate anyone wondering in, would find it intrusive. I would much prefer advance warning.

Holidayshopping · 23/04/2019 11:15

I can’t bear people just dropping in-I think it’s the height of rudeness!

Prawnofthepatriarchy · 23/04/2019 11:58

My house has been a social centre since DC were small. They're now early 20s and still live at home. Their friends and mine drop in all the time. I live in chaos but everyone I'm fond of knows that.

I would always want people to feel free to just turn up.

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