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Can someone please make me feel less anxious about work?

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loljamie · 21/04/2019 13:07

I started my new job when my DD was 9 months old. I've now been there for only 6 weeks, yet I'm feeling incredibly anxious about going back on Tuesday.

I've had a tough time initially because my DD has been full of the cold since starting nursery. I've been assured that this is normal and it's just 'one of those things'. Although this means that she's been up a good 3 times a night and I'm exhausted. My DH helps a lot, so I'm definitely not in this alone.

I'm now finding my job quite difficult and a lot more high-pressured than I had originally thought. I am very career-orientated, though. We need the money and me not working FT isn't an option, at least for a few years yet.

I was recently given more work as I was 'catching on quickly'. I think was this meant - in hindsight - was that they're very understaffed and needed someone to pick up the pace quickly.

I'm getting overwhelmed. I'm worried about telling my boss that I'm already struggling with the workload as I don't want to seem like I can't handle things so early on. I don't want to look like I can't cope and I don't want them to feel as though having a young child is making me less competent than everyone else.

What can I do? Shall I tell my boss that I need some extra time to get my work done before I receive more? Or shall I just 'fake it till I make it' and hope that it comes together?

I'm very anxious generally. More of a worry wort, but today I feel completely drained and I think it's solely anxiety-related. Lucky that my DH is happy to play with DD all day so that I can rest.

Apologies if this doesn't make sense, I've got major brain-fog today. I can't think straight.

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palahvah · 21/04/2019 18:33

Sorry you're finding it hard. Have you got clear objectives/performance targets? Are you clear on the relative priorities of the things you've been asked to do?
I would play back to your boss the priority order you're using, and make it clear where you're able to get to at the moment and what doesn't fit, and validate that's the right priority order to apply.
Is there any training/any tools you need that would allow you to get through your work more efficiently?
You don't need to be anxious about it - you're simply flagging that business demand outstrips current resource (you) and are asking for support in adjusting plans/expectations accordingly.

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