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To hate “call her out”, “call him out”, “call them out”?

57 replies

SuperSara · 21/04/2019 12:53

There doesn’t seem to be an MN thread that goes by without someone posting that the OP should “...call him out on it...” or similar.

What is wrong with “...challenge him...” ? It’s shorter, actually makes sense, and everyone understands its meaning.

Where did “call out” suddenly come from and why are so many people obsessed with shoehorning it into every thread?

I’m guessing it must be from reality TV or social media or something, I’m guessing(?) as I’ve never heard it in real life conversations or even seen it written, except on here, as far as I can recall.

Fully prepared to be told I’m BU but to me it just sounds totally bizarre and wrong.

Just me?

OP posts:
Rosesaredead · 21/04/2019 14:46

ME TOO.

YANBU.

Rosesaredead · 21/04/2019 14:46

Ahhhh agree with PP - 'turned around and said' is even worse!

KittyInTheCradle · 21/04/2019 14:48

VU lol but unreasonable can be amusing sometimes

KittyInTheCradle · 21/04/2019 14:49

The one that gets me is 'im just just going to stand here and take that' (whilst sitting)

KittyInTheCradle · 21/04/2019 14:50

'I don't have to stand here and listen to this' (while lying down)

PregnantSea · 21/04/2019 15:00

I have heard people say this in normal conversations all my life..?

SrSteveOskowski · 21/04/2019 15:08

I hate 'had a go off'. I'm in Ireland where it's not commonly used, but I have a good friend in the UK and am there quite a bit. Was there a few weeks ago, in a supermarket queue when a very angry woman swept past the queue and hissed at the lady on the checkout "I've just had a go off your manager" before knocking over part of a flower display as she stormed out.

"Have a go" here means to take your turn, eg: you might say to a small child "Do you want to have a go on the slide", so 'having a go off your manager' would mean something VERY different here! Confused

ticketsonsalenow · 21/04/2019 15:10

"My bad"

He/she should "have your back" or "have my back"

"Can I get..."

All awful.

Sweetbabycheezits · 21/04/2019 15:18

It's not American...I picked it up living here, in England...hadn't heard it when I lived in the US!!

Mintandthyme · 21/04/2019 15:21

Put on your big girl pants.

Style it out.

😐

SecretWitch · 21/04/2019 15:22

God damn Americans, always sneaking their phrases into the Queen’s language😂

Cringe

AzraiL · 21/04/2019 15:26

I hate 'calling out'.

But not as much as I hate 'clap back' and 'on fleek'.

As for 'killed it', it's not new to my town, we were saying it there almost 20 years ago (in Australia) and I'm pretty sick of it and looking forward to the day when I never have to hear it again.

Aeroflotgirl · 21/04/2019 15:29

There seems to be an influx of 'reaching out' at the moment, grrrr what is wrong with contacted, spoken to etc.

Flyinga · 21/04/2019 15:56

Drop the mic

Anyone know the origin of that one?

Serin · 21/04/2019 15:58

"We all need to come together",
mBlushakes me want to giggle like a schoolgirl.
DH and I have enough trouble managing this with just the two of us, never mind a whole community

FurryDogMother · 21/04/2019 16:07

"I got an invite" - no you didn't, you got an invitation, or you were invited. Also "going forward" - you mean "in the future". "Reached out to" - contacted. I've given up on "registry office" (should be "register office" or "office of the registry") as it seems to be the common usage nowadays. Yes, language changes, and that's quite a beautiful thing, but even some beautiful things can be irritating :)

thefuriousfuggler · 21/04/2019 18:34

I have seen a few threads recently (possibly the same poster, CBA to go back and check) which refer to "crushing on". Is this a thing now? You can have a crush on somebody, but surely it hasn't become one of those new fake nouns like snacking or gifting.

Don't even get me started on having a baby from/to/off someone.

Adds shuddery emoticon.

Fifthtimelucky · 21/04/2019 19:04

Nothing wrong with 'The car needs washing' surely, but I have never seen 'The car needs washed' anywhere except Mumsnet.

I.

ilovesooty · 21/04/2019 19:06

For me:

* is your friend
I've found my people
Are you me?

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 21/04/2019 19:09

Oooo me too OP!
Who ever "called anyone out" 5 years ago ffs?
Just stop it.

cardibach · 21/04/2019 19:12

flyinga
The ironing needs doing
The car needs washing
Both of these seem perfectly grammatical to me. Now ‘the ironing needs done’ or ‘the car needs washed’ - they are irritating and wrong!

FiddlesticksAkimbo · 21/04/2019 19:19

"crushing on". Is this a thing now? You can have a crush on somebody, but surely it hasn't become one of those new fake nouns like snacking or gifting

As I was once told by someone of the American persuasion: there's no such thing as a noun that can't be verbed Grin

ReadWriteDraw · 21/04/2019 19:27

So many good ones here! I also dislike ‘dropped’ as in ‘the album’s dropping June 1st’. So meaningless.

‘My bad’ is awful too. Don’t mind it with my DD’s (17) generation but not from adults - sounds so try hard.

Last one - also hate ‘squad’ to describe a group of friends. It just sounds cliquey and slightly aggressive.

FiddlesticksAkimbo · 21/04/2019 20:09

"Dick move"

Dick is a noun, not an adjective. The action being criticised is almost never part of some great strategic plan. And the whole expression is, well, just a dick move Grin

HMBB · 21/04/2019 22:35

Uanbu

Yes yes to 'my bad' and in fact everything above!

I think I may have a problem as they all annoy me Smile