Ok so back story, and yes this is another mother in law bashing thread.
I grew up very poor but got myself a decent job after uni, but due to mortgage and bills don’t have heaps of spare cash. DH’s family are quite well off, sort of old fashioned snobby.
My brother in law married dh’s sister. He inherited a family business and walked straight into a very very well paid job straight after university. Whilst he obviously works hard, he’s lucky to have been handed it on a plate.
Anyhow, mother in law is a giant snob. She resents the fact her dgc went to a state school, and the fact we live in a non detached house in an area of town that isn’t “naice”. Think hyacinth bucket.
So dbrother in law lives in Vancouver and comes over 3 times a year or so. Every time he’s over he’ll lavish her with gifts, nothing big but like expensive chocolate or coffee. He’ll take them all out for michelin star meals and pay for lots of other meals or days out. She ADORES him, he’s the perfect rich husband for her daughter.
On the other hand she’s ALWAYS commenting about “how kind Peter is” “Peter is very generous isn’t he?” “Aren’t we lucky?”
Basically I can’t afford to waste such money. When we all go on holiday I’ll treat us all to an indian meal in a restaurant or take away (12 of us). Then he’ll take us out to a posh restaurant. Then all we’ll hear about how kind he is whilst she’ll say thanks to us once. I’m basically not good enough and she’s just a gold digger.